All Things Relationship

The world would be a better place if once again men "tipped" their hats at women. Or do I mean "doffed"?

Chivalry is the end point of masculinity.

I like men treating me like a lady, but I don't mind if they just treat me as equal.

I don't fancy that much either.

Though he sounds like a thoughtful guy. 

It doesn't really matter to me either but I have to admit that I do like it.

I like manners myself: I am always polite. Sometimes - too - you have to hold your tongue: honesty is not always the best policy.

To me it's sometimes more like spotting the difference between those who are genuinely chivalrous and those who are just creepy.

This guy has problem with Asian women dating white men?

www.yahoo.com/news/white-men-date-asian-women-232408101.html

I must say, after my ex husband, I don't want to date Asian men any more, especially those who were born overseas and raised by traditional Asian parents. I know I sound very stereoryping but that was my experience.

You don't have to say it but I agree with everything you don't want to say

You can't always help who you fancy, and vice versa...

This guy just has a problem!!!

Sounds familiar to me!

No problem at all Crystal, I am sorry I misunderstood what you were trying to say as well.

I know. There is a big world out their and full of a lot of good people. If your relationship isn't good and it can't be made better, it's time to move on. 

Sometime, a relationship is worth a try. I don't believe in giving up easily, especially when the foundation is there. Call me shallow if you want but I do set criteria. Those criteria must exist before I enter into the relationship. Relation is a contract, rudely called as per my opinion. I think the men think the same when they decided to be in a relationship with me. I know because I asked and they told me the reasons, those reasons were criteria to me. I don't fall for men, I learn to love them over time. In both of my marriages, it took me years to get to marriage, I knew them for at least 3-4 years, then another 3-4 years of engagement before I married them.

Just like a house, the foundation is there but some cracks might happen, then people decide if they are worth fixing or if they can or should be fixed.

My ex grew up in a very privileged environment. Think of coming home from classes and had your meals ready and your clothes laid out on your bed ready for your bath. A cook, maid and pastry chef brought over to take care of them when they were sent overseas for schooling. He was also very (academically and professionally) smart. He knew what he wanted. He would turn down a promotion if it interfere with his interest at that moment. He set his priorities, our son has always been his #1 priority then something else. I did not mind really, because I was too busy and because I had a life for myself as well but then when his personalities interfere with my life, I had problems and overtime, I realized that was a problem that could never be fixed so I wrotte myself off from that relationship. He gave me an ultimatum which I was no longer care so he divorced me. The day I signed that paper, I felt very free.

It sounds as though I did not try to make it work but I did. But I could not try forever. When people say, it take courage to leave, it has nothing to do with courage, it's a decision we all have to make.