Post by Popcorn&Candy on Sept 27, 2021 3:54:41 GMT -5
I MUST find a job. That is my main goal.
My bestie - Vicky - is having a party to celebrate her birthday today. She knows I couldn't attend BUT I am still very happy for her and want her to celebrate with all her other friends. I want Vicky to be happy.
I bought Vicky a Jamie Oliver cookbook, a Billy Elliott DVD and 3 £10 shopping vouchers. I also designed a custom-made card on Moonpig.com.*
*Moonpig.com is a website I don't know why I didn't use before. It is actually really good.
I don't care if anyone open the doors or tip off their hats for me, just being civilized, respectful, thoughtful and think before they open their mouth, that's enough.
I don't want to sound ungrateful but my husband got me one of those heavy blanket to help me sleep. How many times I told him I could not stand heavy things on myself?
I don't want to sound ungrateful but my husband got me one of those heavy blanket to help me sleep. How many times I told him I could not stand heavy things on myself?
I don't want to sound ungrateful but my husband got me one of those heavy blanket to help me sleep. How many times I told him I could not stand heavy things on myself?
I don't fancy that much either.
Though he sounds like a thoughtful guy.
Cherry, by now I think all men are the same, they buy what they like.
I don't care if anyone open the doors or tip off their hats for me, just being civilized, respectful, thoughtful and think before they open their mouth, that's enough.
It doesn't really matter to me either but I have to admit that I do like it.
I don't want to sound ungrateful but my husband got me one of those heavy blanket to help me sleep. How many times I told him I could not stand heavy things on myself?
I find the men who were more "chivalrous" were also more dishonest and speaking to many other women behind my back lol so, I guess for some it's just an act.
I find the men who were more "chivalrous" were also more dishonest and speaking to many other women behind my back lol so, I guess for some it's just an act.
To me it's sometimes more like spotting the difference between those who are genuinely chivalrous and those who are just creepy.
Post by Popcorn&Candy on Oct 4, 2021 2:58:27 GMT -5
There are so many people who always are just putting on an act: you can't trust everybody. No matter how pissed off you are, you have to walk away and cut your losses. There will always be liars and thieves out there. They are not worth hating on.
I must say, after my ex husband, I don't want to date Asian men any more, especially those who were born overseas and raised by traditional Asian parents. I know I sound very stereoryping but that was my experience.
I don't have problems with anyone dating anyone or marrying anyone. But you have to remember that when you date or marry a person you don't just marry the person you are marrying into a family. Although people can change and adjust if you have very strong views on something religion politics whatever and your partner has opposite views this is going to lead to friction and when it's two families it's going to lead to a lot of friction. That's why I was pleased when my daughter ditched her first boyfriend whose father was a violent man who cheated on his partner and chose her current partner whose family are very much like ours they put family first they don't have strong religious views or strong political ties it's made getting along much easier.
I must say, after my ex husband, I don't want to date Asian men any more, especially those who were born overseas and raised by traditional Asian parents. I know I sound very stereoryping but that was my experience.
You can't always help who you fancy, and vice versa...
I must say, after my ex husband, I don't want to date Asian men any more, especially those who were born overseas and raised by traditional Asian parents. I know I sound very stereoryping but that was my experience.
I did, somewhat loosly as it was mainly online, date an asian man for a while some years ago. It was a bit of an experience as the cultural differences were so great. It was not so bad at a distance but would probably have gone bad if we lived together. He had a very definite attitude as to how things should be. I am not used to conforming to instant decisions without discussion.
I must say, after my ex husband, I don't want to date Asian men any more, especially those who were born overseas and raised by traditional Asian parents. I know I sound very stereoryping but that was my experience.
I must say, after my ex husband, I don't want to date Asian men any more, especially those who were born overseas and raised by traditional Asian parents. I know I sound very stereoryping but that was my experience.
I did, somewhat loosly as it was mainly online, date an asian man for a while some years ago. It was a bit of an experience as the cultural differences were so great. It was not so bad at a distance but would probably have gone bad if we lived together. He had a very definite attitude as to how things should be. I am not used to conforming to instant decisions without discussion.
You don't have to say it but I agree with everything you don't want to say
Oh, no! That's not what I meant at all! It took me a while to figure out what you were referring to. I'm so sorry that I didn't make myself clear. I wasn't trying to avoid saying anything, nor was I being snarky.
I meant that I wasn't going to pass judgement on your perpetuating stereotypes. I was trying to state that you would know better than anyone else about traditional Asian parents raising your male childhood peers, not in how you raised your son!
Again, I apologize for not wording things correctly...and not quoting the appropriate parts of your original post when I responded.
Last Edit: Oct 12, 2021 18:35:49 GMT -5 by TestDummyCO
You don't have to say it but I agree with everything you don't want to say
Oh, no! That's not what I meant at all! It took me a while to figure out what you were referring to. I'm so sorry that I didn't make myself clear. I wasn't trying to avoid saying anything, nor was I being snarky.
I meant that I wasn't going to pass judgement on your perpetuating stereotypes. I was trying to state that you would know better than anyone else about traditional Asian parents raising your male childhood peers, not in how you raised your son!
Again, I apologize for not wording things correctly...and not quoting the appropriate parts of your original post when I responded.
No problem at all Crystal, I am sorry I misunderstood what you were trying to say as well.
I come across so many people in low quality relationships. I can't understand why they don't get out of them.
I know. There is a big world out their and full of a lot of good people. If your relationship isn't good and it can't be made better, it's time to move on.
I come across so many people in low quality relationships. I can't understand why they don't get out of them.
I know. There is a big world out their and full of a lot of good people. If your relationship isn't good and it can't be made better, it's time to move on.
I fully agree with this.
If you're unhappy in your relationship, move on and move up. No one deserves to live in misery or settle for second best. Not every relationship can be fixed, either: and no one can make someone else change. Sometimes there is no changing your partner: no matter how good past memories. If they are not the right person in the here and now, don't hold onto nostalgia. Move on. Because you deserve the best in life.
Sometime, a relationship is worth a try. I don't believe in giving up easily, especially when the foundation is there. Call me shallow if you want but I do set criteria. Those criteria must exist before I enter into the relationship. Relation is a contract, rudely called as per my opinion. I think the men think the same when they decided to be in a relationship with me. I know because I asked and they told me the reasons, those reasons were criteria to me. I don't fall for men, I learn to love them over time. In both of my marriages, it took me years to get to marriage, I knew them for at least 3-4 years, then another 3-4 years of engagement before I married them.
Just like a house, the foundation is there but some cracks might happen, then people decide if they are worth fixing or if they can or should be fixed.
My ex grew up in a very privileged environment. Think of coming home from classes and had your meals ready and your clothes laid out on your bed ready for your bath. A cook, maid and pastry chef brought over to take care of them when they were sent overseas for schooling. He was also very (academically and professionally) smart. He knew what he wanted. He would turn down a promotion if it interfere with his interest at that moment. He set his priorities, our son has always been his #1 priority then something else. I did not mind really, because I was too busy and because I had a life for myself as well but then when his personalities interfere with my life, I had problems and overtime, I realized that was a problem that could never be fixed so I wrotte myself off from that relationship. He gave me an ultimatum which I was no longer care so he divorced me. The day I signed that paper, I felt very free.
It sounds as though I did not try to make it work but I did. But I could not try forever. When people say, it take courage to leave, it has nothing to do with courage, it's a decision we all have to make.
It's harder to leave when the love is still there. I think it takes a while before all the love dries up or.. all of the emotion is basically killed for whatever reason. That's usually when people can leave without a second thought, especially if they have tried to fix things or make positive changes for the entire time already.
It's harder to leave when the love is still there. I think it takes a while before all the love dries up or.. all of the emotion is basically killed for whatever reason. That's usually when people can leave without a second thought, especially if they have tried to fix things or make positive changes for the entire time already.
Leaving may not have been easy. But I never had the urge to return.