All Things Relationship

My son is not married yet so his wedding will be the last time I have to deal with his dad.

Keeping my fingers crossed, Cassie.

I was on the phone with him until 15 min ago, I asked him " you are taking her to Europe this New Year. Are you going to propose to her?"  I could hear him laugh.

She simply takes after his side of the family. They were all arses. I just didn't see it.

My parents were rather 'hands off' but did their best. His parents were very much 'hands on', and loving. I just didn't notice that it wasn't real, and very two faced. That is how my daughter turned out.

My mil was the source of all evil. Basically, she was unable to love, and she only valued those who didn't love her. Those she treated very well, at least to their faces. In fairness, it was easily apparent, that her father could barely tolerate her. He was no more loving than she, and he resented her desperate attempts to make him love her.

Seriously, it was like some telly soap opera. 

I remember just before the final breakup, my ex said "Why does no-one love me?" His father probably did to some extent, but made it clear he preferred his older sister. His mother certainly didn't. I no longer did, and he hasn't had a proper relationship since I left 18 years ago. I honestly don't know why I ever married him. I must have had a bump on the head.

The answer to his question, I didn't share, simply as he took after his mother. Desperate to be loved, but unable to love in return.

Hi Cassie, I am so sorry to hear this. My husband's younger brother had schizophrenia. What you described is exactly how my BIL was. He ended up killing himself in September 2019.

Something similar happened to my friend.. her brother is also bipolar.  I don't blame you for wanting to stay away... that type of random violence can get someone killed even if it's not intentional, and as we age, we become so much more fragile... best to keep safe and away.

I had a boss like that. Frequently, i had to intervene because she ruined the staff's day.

My husband is the type that grows a beard every fall season, November through about February.

Last year I though about arranging a true straight razor shave, one with the hot towel and such. I only queried a couple of barber shops (these do still exist) but neither offered "shaves".

I admit I like pedi and manicures, facials and the occasional massage. A shame if men have lost the luxury of a professional hot shave.

That's such a shame my father had a beard and moustache and he went to a special barber who would shampoo it with special shampoo and then use a special conditioner and oil for the beard then wrap him in hot towels and wait for it to work in so that his beard always felt as soft as the hair on his head.

My son-in-law has recently grown a beard and my daughter found a Barber here in town who still does special trims and care of beards they also do the old-fashioned straight razor shave.

Klay, I'm a mixed bag. First, nobody likes the feel of beard stubble, it can be abrasive. But I do find it sexy too appearance wise. So there is an optimum, some beard length to reduce it being abrasive feel, yet trimmed short for appearance. I don't like really long beards at all.

Me, I'd prefer him clean shaven but live and let live. If he starts coloring his beard, its over.

Men's hairdressing is on the up here. There are so many in our little town, including a turkish one. I think that's hot towels?

I am often surprised that beard hair is soft, as it looks wiry.