Troublemaker Friend

Looking at your OP ^^.

Since you posted that, over a year ago, there has been 9 pages of posts, totalling 240, mostly from you. Even 2,802 views, and in all that time you have been failing to cope with her, and N O T H I N G has changed. Not one single thing.

You really need to look at this thread again, from the very start, and just see how little has changed. If anything, she has got worse.

You really need to review why you have this friendship.   

I honestly think that you are your own worst enemy, and I can't think why you are carrying on doing this to yourself.

For goodness sake. Wake up and smell the coffee. It's burnt dry, the coffee pot bottom has broken, and ruined the cooker.

I've got a hard conversation to have with my friend: I have to cancel the mattress removal. I don't know:

1. Where my friend is moving to: I need an address for the waste collection men.
2. When she is moving: tomorrow? Monday?
3. How she'll move the mattress to the outside at 6:30am: when she has said she isn't able to.

I can't help because I am not wonder-woman and Vicky needs to do some of this herself. If she is refusing to take the mattress outside her property there is nothing I can do.

She's trying to do her best. Life is hard for her: and it has made her hard. She definitely does not hold back her opinions. I can see what made Vicky. I wonder if I would be the same had I had her upbringing. It is so easy to be looking in: but when you're on the inside it isn't so easy to explain.

Vicky is complex.

It's a thread about a moron.

Does she usually pay her debts?  

Alternatively, does she not have a bank card?

You are certain you are getting something out of this friendship? 

The concerning ones here are numbers 1, 8, and maybe 3 under specific circumstances.

Thank you, alsr.

I don't like hurting Vicky and feel terrible when I sometimes don't answer her calls. But there are times I am unable to talk. Although I realize you're not suggesting I upset Vicky!

I just can't seem to walk away from Vicky: at least she is someone to talk to. But I stick to my boundaries: like not talking at 9pm.

We shall see what happens.

It sounds like she was trying to weedle her way in to your place. I tend to think that something of the nature of boot camp or extended living in a situation in which she is forced to learn to live with and appreciate people, and forming relationships, is perhaps the only thing which may save her.

Vicky did struggle with the police. Picturing it: they must've tackled her and pinned her down, whilst she shouted and struggled with them. No doubt swearing as she shouted. That isn't the image of a victim. If she'd had nothing to hide, why struggle with three grown policemen? And I know she has been throwing things across her flat and throwing things out the window, disturbing her neighbours. She also knocked on her neighbour's door, asking about some rubbish. The neighbour was not taking that and told Vicky to f**k off.

Unfortunately you're all right: she is playing it up, claiming people are ganging up on her. But every time I picture those three policemen pinning her down, I realize she is NOT the victim.

I guess I'm in a state of denial.