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Popcorn&Candy Rare Member Posts: 11,364	Troublemaker Friend Feb 26, 2024 10:05:27 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Popcorn&Candy on Feb 26, 2024 10:05:27 GMT -5 Feb 26, 2024 4:50:03 GMT -5 cassie said: Does she mean she finally ran into that person I warned about . The one who wont take her nonsense.. Yes, it does. Vicky foolishly believes she can choose where she lives.
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Popcorn&Candy Rare Member Posts: 11,364	Troublemaker Friend Feb 26, 2024 10:06:41 GMT -5 cassie and jen like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Popcorn&Candy on Feb 26, 2024 10:06:41 GMT -5 If she wants to be homeless that is now her problem. Or if she wants to spend a fortune on hotels, that is also her problem.
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Feb 26, 2024 10:05:27 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

Feb 26, 2024 4:50:03 GMT -5 cassie said:

Does she mean she finally ran into that person I warned about . The one who wont take her nonsense..

Yes, it does.

Vicky foolishly believes she can choose where she lives.

Quite often people like Vicky are housed in areas of roughly similar people. The people do tend to put up with so much before one of them decides that the law is not going to do anything and they step in and put her in her place. Different levels of society have different ways of doing things but to anyone enough becomes enough.

I don't think it's so much choosing where she lives as to choosing how she fits into society, or not. The difficult thing is that she is more reacting to events rather than approaching with empathy and reasoning.

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Feb 27, 2024 3:29:14 GMT -5 jen said:

Quite often people like Vicky are housed in areas of roughly similar people. The people do tend to put up with so much before one of them decides that the law is not going to do anything and they step in and put her in her place. Different levels of society have different ways of doing things but to anyone enough becomes enough.

EXACTLY.

People are the same wherever Vicky goes. She is playing a losing game. Unless she wins the lottery and lives on a desert Island, she's stuck where she is.

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My friend is moving to Birmingham next year.

It's strange but I'll miss her. But she knows it will soon be time to move on: she isn't happy where she's at. The town she lives in is hostile and she needs a new chance at life.

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May 24, 2024 8:53:10 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

My friend is moving to Birmingham next year.

It's strange but I'll miss her. But she knows it will soon be time to move on: she isn't happy where she's at. The town she lives in is hostile and she needs a new chance at life.

I really hope that she can turn her life around change her attitude and make friends instead of enemies. The town is hostile towards her now but really she is the one who is created the problem she needs to realize that she has to clean up her act if she wants to succeed in Birmingham.

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May 24, 2024 8:53:10 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

My friend is moving to Birmingham next year.

It's strange but I'll miss her. But she knows it will soon be time to move on: she isn't happy where she's at. The town she lives in is hostile and she needs a new chance at life.

Instead of her being a bus ride away, she will be a train away. Your friendship is not over yet, and maybe you will find it easier to say "No" with a bit more distance between you.

That will help you both.

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Popcorn&Candy Rare Member Posts: 11,364	Troublemaker Friend May 26, 2024 8:22:51 GMT -5 cassie and alsr like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Popcorn&Candy on May 26, 2024 8:22:51 GMT -5 She's now got a new boyfriend: he lives in London. So I don't think she's going to Birmingham now. But she will be moving away next year. We shall see where her travels take her.
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May 24, 2024 8:53:10 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

My friend is moving to Birmingham next year.

It's strange but I'll miss her. But she knows it will soon be time to move on: she isn't happy where she's at. The town she lives in is hostile and she needs a new chance at life.

Really hope the best for her.

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May 26, 2024 8:22:51 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

She's now got a new boyfriend: he lives in London. So I don't think she's going to Birmingham now. But she will be moving away next year.

We shall see where her travels take her.

Let's hope she is attracted to an opposite.

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I am a bit suspicious of this new boyfriend: his photo is too good to be true. I think he's used a photo of a male model. I didn't tell Vicky this, of course. But that photo is fake: I am positive of this.

He says he lives in London and is from Greece. But it could all be fiction.

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May 29, 2024 1:41:04 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

I am a bit suspicious of this new boyfriend: his photo is too good to be true. I think he's used a photo of a male model. I didn't tell Vicky this, of course. But that photo is fake: I am positive of this.

He says he lives in London and is from Greece. But it could all be fiction.

I wonder if it is her fiction. She needs an excuse as she has changed her mind about moving away.

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May 29, 2024 14:32:35 GMT -5 a_muppet said:

May 29, 2024 1:41:04 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

I am a bit suspicious of this new boyfriend: his photo is too good to be true. I think he's used a photo of a male model. I didn't tell Vicky this, of course. But that photo is fake: I am positive of this.

He says he lives in London and is from Greece. But it could all be fiction.

I wonder if it is her fiction. She needs an excuse as she has changed her mind about moving away.

I almost wonder if the moving away and the boyfriend are symptoms of the same thing and neither may have been true. When things move on someone who has difficulty integrating with society may well look for other ways to get noticed, but I suppose it is likely true to say a move may be a good option in the short term. In practice though someone who cannot communicate well usually soon ends up in the same position as before. Their main chance is that they mello with age and meet someone who cares or has feelings for them.

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May 30, 2024 2:43:34 GMT -5 jen said:

May 29, 2024 14:32:35 GMT -5 a_muppet said:

I wonder if it is her fiction. She needs an excuse as she has changed her mind about moving away.

I almost wonder if the moving away and the boyfriend are symptoms of the same thing and neither may have been true. When things move on someone who has difficulty integrating with society may well look for other ways to get noticed, but I suppose it is likely true to say a move may be a good option in the short term. In practice though someone who cannot communicate well usually soon ends up in the same position as before. Their main chance is that they mello with age and meet someone who cares or has feelings for them.

She could do with a fresh start.

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It turns out he was a fraud and conned her out of £20. I've told her to be thankful it wasn't hundreds of pounds.

It also turned out it wasn't his picture: he used a picture of a male model. Vicky was upset that she'd been tricked. But it seemed too good to be true. If he'd looked like that and had been from Greece he'd already have a girlfriend IRL. Vicky is berating herself for being gullible.

I knew when I saw that photo he'd been a trickster.

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May 30, 2024 3:00:46 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

It turns out he was a fraud and conned her out of £20. I've told her to be thankful it wasn't hundreds of pounds.

It also turned out it wasn't his picture: he used a picture of a male model. Vicky was upset that she'd been tricked. But it seemed too good to be true. If he'd looked like that and had been from Greece he'd already have a girlfriend IRL. Vicky is berating herself for being gullible.

I knew when I saw that photo he'd been a trickster.

He did well, considering she is always begging off of you.

Besides which, £20 is a cheap way to learn an important lesson.

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May 30, 2024 3:41:25 GMT -5 a_muppet said:

Besides which, £20 is a cheap way to learn an important lesson.

I've advised my friend to not give money to anyone on the Internet and not buy anything for anyone over the Internet, either.

£20 is a cheap way for her to realize her mistake.

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May 31, 2024 9:15:06 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

May 30, 2024 3:41:25 GMT -5 a_muppet said:

Besides which, £20 is a cheap way to learn an important lesson.

I've advised my friend to not give money to anyone on the Internet and not buy anything for anyone over the Internet, either.

£20 is a cheap way for her to realize her mistake.

You know, that's true most of the time but, on further thinking, £20 is food for several days when you are on the breadline

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May 30, 2024 3:00:46 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

It turns out he was a fraud and conned her out of £20. I've told her to be thankful it wasn't hundreds of pounds.

It also turned out it wasn't his picture: he used a picture of a male model. Vicky was upset that she'd been tricked. But it seemed too good to be true. If he'd looked like that and had been from Greece he'd already have a girlfriend IRL. Vicky is berating herself for being gullible.

I knew when I saw that photo he'd been a trickster.

Never make such a big change for a guy, especially a guy we barely know.

Popcorn&Candy Rare Member Posts: 11,364	Troublemaker Friend Jun 2, 2024 6:00:06 GMT -5 a_muppet likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Popcorn&Candy on Jun 2, 2024 6:00:06 GMT -5 Vicky's back with the guy from Birmingham. If it works out, she'll be moving there next year. Good luck to her!
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Jun 2, 2024 7:03:09 GMT -5 jen said:

Jun 2, 2024 6:00:06 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

Vicky's back with the guy from Birmingham. If it works out, she'll be moving there next year.

Good luck to her!

Don't hold your breath!

Maybe hold hers?

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Jun 2, 2024 13:09:18 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

As you all know, the dating website Greek God turned out to be fiction.

Steve is a guy who is standing by her. I hope he visits her more often, though.

Steve has proved he cares: he turned up and saw my friend. They had a long talk and cleared the air. It looks like Steve IS the real deal.

Vicky is coping as best she can: she has a new bungalow and is working with the courts to clear her name. She'll never live the perfect life but she has hope. AND is trying very hard to make her life right. I do think Vicky will always have a roof over her head. She's too smart to be arrested and put in prison. She is just a vulnerable woman caught in an impossible situation. If it were me, I'd feel the same as Vicky.

It also goes to show: how much do I choose? What freedoms do I really have? What would happen if I got angry in public? Or if I were targeted by my neighbours? Where would I go? Where would I run? Not all of this is Vicky's fault.

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Aug 18, 2024 14:34:11 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

There is an issue: I don't want to talk to Vicky every day. But she'll phone and phone and phone. I want the best for Vicky but I am getting fed up. PLEASE STOP PHONING ME.

I'm being driven mental.

Turn your phone off, or block her until you want to listen....

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Aug 16, 2024 14:57:11 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

Jun 2, 2024 13:09:18 GMT -5 Popcorn&Candy said:

As you all know, the dating website Greek God turned out to be fiction.

Steve is a guy who is standing by her. I hope he visits her more often, though.

Steve has proved he cares: he turned up and saw my friend. They had a long talk and cleared the air. It looks like Steve IS the real deal.

Vicky is coping as best she can: she has a new bungalow and is working with the courts to clear her name. She'll never live the perfect life but she has hope. AND is trying very hard to make her life right. I do think Vicky will always have a roof over her head. She's too smart to be arrested and put in prison. She is just a vulnerable woman caught in an impossible situation. If it were me, I'd feel the same as Vicky.

It also goes to show: how much do I choose? What freedoms do I really have? What would happen if I got angry in public? Or if I were targeted by my neighbours? Where would I go? Where would I run? Not all of this is Vicky's fault.

Ill admit I dont agree with you on this one. My friend who lives in Surrey is still in that nasty bed sit. She's now been told that she will soon have to move because her block is being sold off she has no idea where to or what dump they will put her in and she has never put a foot wrong in her entire life.
Vicky brings most of the troubled down on herself she's aggressive and antisocial.
Being targeted by her neighbours is entirely her own fault, she has caused so much ruckus im surprised that somebody hasn't done something serious to her. Shes been abusive to all kinds of officials from police to social workers and yet here she is getting another house and more help.

Sorry but I feel there are many other people who deserve this help far more than she does she has proved that bad behaviour gets you rewards and that is not right.

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