All Things Relationship

Apparently in the uk, 25% of marriages started online.

You have waited so long, more time reflecting won't make a lot of difference.

Alternatively, you are not getting any younger?

My best parent courting story:

My parents courted towards the end of the war. So much of it was by post. My mum tried to dump my dad by letter. He replied that it was a rude to do that, and was unbecoming of her. 

He got away with it.

Online dating is not for the faint of heart. It takes a little dedication as well as courage to be in it. A few questions you may want to ask your self: Do you I have the time? Can I make the time? You've got to have the time to sieve a number of members who'd show interest to you. If the gods of hearts are on your side, you'd be seeing yourself replying to 3-6 keen dudes. If half of these are morons, you can narrow down your choices easily. But if all of them are playing nice online, you've got to take time and decide how are you gonna proceed. Another important thing to ask your self: How do I handle rejections? Guys like women, know what they're looking for (sometimes they don't as well) and if we don't fit in what they want, they would say thanks for the time and then move on. Sometimes this can happen when one is oblivious and has assumed that everything was smooth sailing but not. How do you handle disappointments? Some people misrepresent themselves - the so-called kitten fishing (just google it). Another is the drought season when you don't get any notification at all or if you get, they are the ones you just want to ignore because they don't appeal to your liking. 

In my understanding, if the persons are not keen to try the unknown, cannot spare time to give away, cannot take things lightly when being rejected or got disappointed and with problems in own's self-esteem, then maybe online dating is not for them. 

Every bf I have had in the last ten or so years has come from internet forums.

I always know them well from online chatting, then we have telephone chats, followed by online face to face. After that we initially meet in public places.

By that time, we are well in, and know each other a good bit.

Unpleasant, and awkward. But life is like that at times. 

As Crystal says. At least you know.

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sexual-futurist/202401/rip-love-languages?



People express/show their love in various ways... some more than others, some less. Bringing up 'love languages' is a way for people to still notice that someone is showing love in a way that may not have been on their radar, as some have preconceived notions about what love should look like, and if it doesn't fit in that box, then it's not true/real love.

I feel many watch TV, movies, and videos online, and the expressions of love are so grand and even over-the-top (maybe dramatic) that the expectations can be a bit higher or skewed compared to what reality tends to be for most. I have dated people who thought love meant constantly fighting because it shows you have passion for each other.. blech! No thank you.

At least that is harmless bickering! lol that is a preference for me over screaming matches.

I know loads of people who have smoked, drank heavily and lived into old age. But I wouldn't do so myself.

If you have a friend who always tunes out to what you're sharing or saying for their phone and someone else. Who doesn't even make an effort to both do that and listen simultaneously. Always forgets to keep you informed about group outings that they've invited you to. While the only thing they ever seem to want to converse with you about (or anyone else) is your crushes yet claim to not care about your love life. Are they really a friend?