All Things Relationship

I am going to Disneyland with a friend who has feelings for me. It’s his first time ever going to the amusement park.

Have a good time

I'm suspecting that maybe a relationship is never going to happen for me and I should stop worrying about matters which seem almost archaic as a typewriter.

Online dating seems like a good way to meet shallow men only messaging you because they want to hook up for just sex. A lot of the times they won’t read your profile despite some crucial information you insist they read prior to messaging. You could tell them to not post pictures of their penis in private messages and it is futile as they immediately think that is the appropriate first response.

Then when you actually find the kind of men who are respectful and enjoyable to communicate with, you feel a sense of relief yet at the same time you lack a strong personal connection to really feel any sort of emotional attachment to them to develop into something more. Almost as if one full year or two is what is necessary before any feelings of attraction can develop then again maybe this is because I might just be demisexual. Don't even know why I question that anymore.

It is a minefield there. While there are people who only look for sex, there are also a few of them who truly are looking for the love of their life. The important thing is to be true to your intentions as well as expectations. If the person only wants sex and you don't, call it quits early on. The two of you move on. That's okay. That's life. Don't take it too personal. Some people do not want commitments nor relationships and that's their choice. The idea is to find your match. The one that matches your core values, sexual appetite/intimacy (if it applies), and life goal (applies when looking for long term relationship). 

I haven't looked myself but I imagine there are reviews of some of the more well known dating sites online, much like there are reviews of everything else. It might be worth looking as they may help avoid the worst sites.

That's among the worse bunch. 

I used a dating site when I was single many years ago. Being alone in a foreign country and got lonely, I tried the local dating site. It was the only local dating site in the country at that time:D  It was like an adventure for me as a first-timer. My friends were very scared for me. I used common sense and trusted my gut instinct along the way. The first guy was okay, generous and handsome. We went out twice. He realised I was too demure for him so we didn't go out again. It was understandable. I was new to the game. Same with the second guy who I went out with a month. He was okay but we didn't have a chemistry. We tried but it wasn't really working. The last guy was too good to be true. I felt intimidated and my gut was telling me to just end it. We dated for a month. He was gentleman and handsome, too. Amongst the three, he was the best kisser  . However, I was not comfortable for whatever reason. He thought we were soulmates and the feeling wasn't mutual. I had to end it and I said sorry to him. He accepted it without a fuss and both of us moved on. I did not sleep with any of them and no one pressured me nor tried in manipulating me to do so. They were good bunch of men. Aside from doing fun activities with them, I also learnt a lot of things in their company. Overall, I had a good experience. Thank God for that 

You're not an old lady yet, Leaf! Why won't you ever meet that someone special? If you walk around negative about your attraction and your allure, of course no bloke will approach you! I mean, you wouldn't want to date the "loser" - not meant nastily - in the room would you? You have to love YOUR life and love being with people. If you're positive about things you're more likely to meet that special person. Guys are attracted to happy, confident women: not the woman in the corner of the room moaning about her lack of relationship!

I used the term "loser" lightly, for lack of a better word. I was NOT indicating that you're a "loser" in any way!

There are similarities - and differences - between men and women. Still, it is easy to generalize. Not all men are the same/not all women are the same. But - again - there ARE similarities and differences between the two genders.

There are men I think are soft and sensitive/there are men I think who are brash and agggressive. The same goes for women. However, sometimes it is necessary - say in psychology studies - to use gender stereotypes. They are used with care, but they can be used. Psychologists do learn about the differences between the sexes.

It is a highly interesting subject. I studied psychology at night school and really enjoyed that class. A fascinating topic.

Also: love is love, regardless of gender.

Today is the start of a week where I have to tolerate my brother in the house with his immaturity so I'm just trying to enjoy the last few moments of normalcy since I will likely not see this again in seven days.

Brothers are tough to deal with Leaf: I should know!