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priscillams Premier Member Posts: 3,547	All Things Relationship Oct 26, 2021 8:37:57 GMT -5 heatherly, a_muppet, and 1 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by priscillams on Oct 26, 2021 8:37:57 GMT -5 I haven't attended many Halloween costume parties as an adult. But it seems they are more popular with women. If so, is it because we all have a bit of the inner witch in us?

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Oct 26, 2021 8:37:57 GMT -5 priscillams said:

I haven't attended many Halloween costume parties as an adult. But it seems they are more popular with women.

If so, is it because we all have a bit of the inner witch in us?

Girls just wanna have fun! ;p

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Oct 26, 2021 8:37:57 GMT -5 priscillams said:

I haven't attended many Halloween costume parties as an adult. But it seems they are more popular with women.

If so, is it because we all have a bit of the inner witch in us?

We are having one this weekend. I am going as a dalmation.

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Oct 26, 2021 12:35:01 GMT -5 a_muppet said:

Oct 26, 2021 8:37:57 GMT -5 priscillams said:

I haven't attended many Halloween costume parties as an adult. But it seems they are more popular with women.

If so, is it because we all have a bit of the inner witch in us?

We are having one this weekend. I am going as a dalmation.

Bit risky..watch out for Cruella

Popcorn&Candy Rare Member Posts: 11,364	All Things Relationship Oct 26, 2021 13:03:20 GMT -5 kjay likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Popcorn&Candy on Oct 26, 2021 13:03:20 GMT -5 I'd go as Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman!
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Oct 26, 2021 12:41:22 GMT -5 cassie said:

Oct 26, 2021 12:35:01 GMT -5 a_muppet said:

We are having one this weekend. I am going as a dalmation.

Bit risky..watch out for Cruella

That is the film we have planned.

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Oct 26, 2021 12:31:51 GMT -5 heatherly said:

Oct 26, 2021 8:37:57 GMT -5 priscillams said:

I haven't attended many Halloween costume parties as an adult. But it seems they are more popular with women.

If so, is it because we all have a bit of the inner witch in us?

Girls just wanna have fun! ;p

Why yes we do...

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Oct 26, 2021 12:35:01 GMT -5 a_muppet said:

Oct 26, 2021 8:37:57 GMT -5 priscillams said:

I haven't attended many Halloween costume parties as an adult. But it seems they are more popular with women.

If so, is it because we all have a bit of the inner witch in us?

We are having one this weekend. I am going as a dalmation.

Cherry, we are going to need a picture of that.

Chase your dreams. In high heels of course.

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Oct 26, 2021 18:04:35 GMT -5 kjay said:

Oct 26, 2021 12:35:01 GMT -5 a_muppet said:

We are having one this weekend. I am going as a dalmation.

Cherry, we are going to need a picture of that.

We will see lol

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kjay Moderator Posts: 24,221	All Things Relationship Oct 27, 2021 18:05:51 GMT -5 jen likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by kjay on Oct 27, 2021 18:05:51 GMT -5 Oct 27, 2021 17:19:27 GMT -5 a_muppet said: Oct 26, 2021 18:04:35 GMT -5 kjay said: Cherry, we are going to need a picture of that. We will see lol Pretty Please.
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kjay Moderator Posts: 24,221	All Things Relationship Oct 28, 2021 4:56:28 GMT -5 heatherly and jen like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by kjay on Oct 28, 2021 4:56:28 GMT -5 Oct 28, 2021 2:58:08 GMT -5 jen said: Oct 27, 2021 18:05:51 GMT -5 kjay said: Pretty Please. With flowers And a cherry on top. 🍒
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priscillams Premier Member Posts: 3,547	All Things Relationship Oct 29, 2021 8:25:15 GMT -5 a_muppet likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by priscillams on Oct 29, 2021 8:25:15 GMT -5 Never use or even order ketchup on a "first date".

heatherly Administrator Maintain low tones! Posts: 16,394	All Things Relationship Oct 29, 2021 9:20:04 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by heatherly on Oct 29, 2021 9:20:04 GMT -5 Oct 29, 2021 8:25:15 GMT -5 priscillams said: Never use or even order ketchup on a "first date". Did you have a bad experience with ketchup on a first date?

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priscillams Premier Member Posts: 3,547	All Things Relationship Oct 30, 2021 6:20:11 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by priscillams on Oct 30, 2021 6:20:11 GMT -5 Trust me.

heatherly Administrator Maintain low tones! Posts: 16,394	All Things Relationship Oct 30, 2021 8:48:20 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by heatherly on Oct 30, 2021 8:48:20 GMT -5 It does stain, so I guess that's not the best first impression to leave, but... if someone's going to be with me, then they're going to have to accept that I'm a mess sometimes anyway.. so let's get it over with LOL

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Bit heavy...but it is a fact that marriage is safer for women and children than is unmarried co-habitation.

May have something to do with one partner (or both) not being fully committed.

I guess I wasn't surprised. There are always exceptions of course, statistical outliers.

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Oct 31, 2021 7:09:22 GMT -5 priscillams said:

Bit heavy...but it is a fact that marriage is safer for women and children than is unmarried co-habitation.

May have something to do with one partner (or both) not being fully committed.

I guess I wasn't surprised. There are always exceptions of course, statistical outliers.

Makes sense... you have a lot more to lose if married to someone and end up divorced. Just living together? Not so much skin in the game.

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I'm sorry but I don't agree. Marriage is NOT always safer for women and children than unmarried co-habitation. I don't care what stastics say: an unmarried relationship does not necessarily mean women and children are in more danger. There are so many women and children trapped in violent households. Whatever the reason for domestic violence, being married does not reduce the risk.

In fact, many people believe marriage puts them in more danger of domestic violence. And an unmarried relationship does not reflect lack of respect or lack of committment.

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Post by cassie on Nov 1, 2021 9:12:03 GMT -5

define safe//

there are pros and cons of both situations.

Legally you often have more protection to rights and money if youre married but theres an awful lot more paperwork before you can walk away/

In a non married couple there are risks if a partner walks away or dies. ( my friend ended up on the street when her BF died and his family claimed his house) but if you want out its easier to just pack up and go.

Commitment doesnt come from a church service or a bit of paper its something a person takes on themselves they either give it to their partner or they dont.

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Nov 1, 2021 9:12:03 GMT -5 cassie said:

define safe//

there are pros and cons of both situations.

Legally you often have more protection to rights and money if youre married but theres an awful lot more paperwork before you can walk away/

In a non married couple there are risks if a partner walks away or dies. ( my friend ended up on the street when her BF died and his family claimed his house) but if you want out its easier to just pack up and go.

Commitment doesnt come from a church service or a bit of paper its something a person takes on themselves they either give it to their partner or they dont.

That happened to our cleaner at work, they had been together for years. She had stood by him during a terrible heroin habit, and his complete unwillingness to get a job. So, being the sole wage earner, and cleaners don't earn much, she had paid for everything in the house.

His family waited till she went out and changed all the locks. She was left with just the clothes she stood in. Legally, an expensive fight could possibly have got her personal stuff back, but think she made the right decision to walk away. It was one of 'those' areas.

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Nov 1, 2021 10:29:41 GMT -5 a_muppet said:

Nov 1, 2021 9:12:03 GMT -5 cassie said:

define safe//

there are pros and cons of both situations.

Legally you often have more protection to rights and money if youre married but theres an awful lot more paperwork before you can walk away/

In a non married couple there are risks if a partner walks away or dies. ( my friend ended up on the street when her BF died and his family claimed his house) but if you want out its easier to just pack up and go.

Commitment doesnt come from a church service or a bit of paper its something a person takes on themselves they either give it to their partner or they dont.

That happened to our cleaner at work, they had been together for years. She had stood by him during a terrible heroin habit, and his complete unwillingness to get a job. So, being the sole wage earner, and cleaners don't earn much, she had paid for everything in the house.

His family waited till she went out and changed all the locks. She was left with just the clothes she stood in. Legally, an expensive fight could possibly have got her personal stuff back, but think she made the right decision to walk away. It was one of 'those' areas.

Despicable.

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When it comes to death and money all rules are off.
That's why even though my daughter and son-in-law were very happy just living together when they bought a house I advised them to either have a partnership agreement or get married.

Just to make sure that if anything happened to either one of them the other one would have rights to the property.

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Jan 18, 2021 15:15:54 GMT -5 a_muppet said:

Jan 18, 2021 11:39:50 GMT -5 heatherly said:

www.huffpost.com/entry/polyamorous-relationship-nonmonogamy-covid-19-pandemic_n_60009991c5b697df1a03fe93?

This is a risk with all relationships, but I'd imagine it's even a bigger risk with open relationships where you allow each other to fall in love with others.

I think you need some very strict rules and understandings to cope with polyamory, especially if it does not involve the two participants directly. ie them and one other.

I would imagine that it might just do two things: destroy the relationship or ramp it up to the stratosphere 🤷‍♂️

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