All Things Relationship

I like to empathise with horrible people to some extent. It is a learning process.

Speaking to them or having anything to do with them is another matter,

I have a small circle of friends which I started to introduce to my husband after we got engaged. He quickly understood this friendship. One of the guys summed it up last night at dinner: We might have this type of dinner only 4-5 time a year but we can always count on everyone at this table to be there for each other, whether just for a quick conversation or when we need an ear, or when we need something more crucial...

I am very lucky to have these people in my life. Not only that we are compatible in every aspects of our life, we make time to connect, we are genuinely thoughtful toward each other and make an effort to stay in each other's life.

I suddenly remember a friend in college. She and her husband got divorced. The divorve was so bad, he kicked her out of the house three weeks before the divorce was finalized, she had nowhere to go, she called me at almost midnight. I went to pick her up. I still remember what my ex told her husband that night " Jim, this day will be a day you will look back and can't understand how you could do this". A month later, she found out she was pregnant. We helped her find a place, she went back to work. She had her daughter two weeks before I had my son, we went to visit her and there was the husband. I was surprise and did not know if that was a good or bad sign. I seldomly hear from her since then. I just looked her up, still in that fancy house with the husband, I am wondering how her life is.

Then there is another one, my son's kindergarten teacher. She was born and grew up in this country but after college, she was sent back to Korea to marry a lawyer there. She got pregnant, could not get along with the MIL, she went back to the US. Husband went back and forth, they got two more kids. One day, MIL decided to move to the State with them, she could not stand her. They were on the verge of a divorce, she lived upstairs with the kids and hubby and mommy lived downstairs. She called me one day to tell me that she needed to have a surgery and it has been scheduled but she needed someone to help her for a week. I told her she could stay at my house, made arrangement for the cook to follow the meal plan designated by the surgeon, ordered a chauffer service to take her kids to school ( her husband picked them up). The day before the surgery, I called to pick her up, she never picked up my call, until three months later, she called to apologize. She told me her husband offered to take care of everything and she planned to call me later. It was too late at that point. I already made up my mind she was not worth it.

I have come to a conclusion that I will focus on the real friends I have and stop being the good samaritan to everyone.

I think This more nice post here lol..
"In Islam there is a name ta'aruf which means that women and men do not meet and meet each other before marriage. it can be said that we get married to someone we don't know and go up what do you think about this?"

Nice thanks.. just feel some worried if we married without knowing n Love.. lol

I hope she at least told her mom you sent her a card.

I expect they meant that he was 'broken in ready to be trained'. 

That's terrible, no wonder you are angry.

Another girlfriend said that men are looking for a mother:). My husband is glad she is not one of my close friend ))

I agreed. people who take us for granted don't deserve our attention and affection.

Have you ever heard the saying... Fool me once shame on you..fool me twice shame on me...

Meaning you should take care not to be taken in by someone more than once..

That was exactly the right approach.

I'm sorry, too, Mary. But - fair play to her - she doesn't demand money and doesn't pressure me too much at all. But she did teach me a valuable lesson: and there is a difference between being a fool and a good samaritan.

"A fool and his money are quickly parted".