Fat Shaming?

I think she's a horrible person.

Fat-shaming isn't a made up thing and the reason it's so terrible is because it doesn't help anything. Fat people hear you judging them and go eat food to make the pain go away.

Our country is very judgmental towards fat people and it's unnecessary. There are so many different habits that are damaging to your health. When you go sky diving or bungee jumping, you are risking your life regardless of how safe it usually is. If you chose not to do those activities, then you would have higher chances of living that day automatically. Because living life means slowly killing yourself.

For instance, I have only slept with one person in my entire life. The more people you sleep with, the more likely it is for you to get an incurable STD and die. This is factual. I could sit around because I was "pure" all my life and only had sex with my husband and be like (to most people I meet),"All you guys are going to get STD's and DIE, but I won't because I'm better than you. There's no such thing as slut shaming. I'm just saying what needs to be said. You should learn how to keep it in your pants and use birth control and we should make it more difficult to get condoms so you'll all stop being immoral. All these stupid medical bills I have to pay because people sleep around..."

That wasn't funny, but it's saying the exact same thing she said about fat people to a totally different group.

No one waits as long to lose their virginity as I did and I don't care. I don't count how many sexual partners my friends have had. If they get an STD because they were sleeping around, I frown and feel bad for them and sympathize with them. That's why most people aren't afraid to share things with me. Because it sucks when you have to suffer like that and there should always be sympathy towards it, regardless of the choices you've made to get to that point.

But in essence, this is what she is doing...counting people's calories, judging them based on their looks, not attempting at all to understand them. She just has a need to feel superior to them because being slender is easy for her.

It reminds me a lot of how people treat me when it comes to my anxiety. I have severe anxiety problems and for most people, it's just so easy to NOT have anxiety. I've been told many times to just choose not to be afraid. But it's a battle, not a choice. And with obesity it's the same way. They are battling their own bodies and their emotions and bad habits and shaming them and telling them they are bad for being this way is not going to help them.

Giving them more healthy choices might help some of them though. But if you really care about their health and well-being, if you're really out to help them and not to judge them, then you will want all their medical bills to be paid. You won't care because you want them to live longer, so you'll want them to have medical coverage regardless of their choices.

If you just want to judge them...then you'll complain about every reason you can find about how they are a burden to you. Like that they take up too much room on an airplane or that they cut in front of you in line.

That especially bothered me because when people have disabilities, it makes it harder for them to exercise and that can lead to weight gain and obesity. Who says that if someone is in a wheelchair and fat that the fat happened first and then the disability? Sometimes it's the other way around.

I know people are horrible people the moment they mention diabetes and being overweight in the same sentence. I have diabetes and I HATE this stereotype. All that being overweight does is make your diabetes worse if you already have it. It doesn't give people diabetes. You have to either have an autoimmune disease or a genetic history of the disease (which I have several family members on both sides of my family with diabetes) to get it. But diabetes and obesity are the buzzwords these days and people pretend that they understand them when they've never had to live with either problem. Until you have to stab yourself multiple times a day with a needle, don't claim you can even begin to understand what it's like or what causes it or how to treat it or how people with it should eat.

If she was making actual funny jokes, it would be fine. It's great to laugh at yourself and other people. I love comedians.

I think, because she's attractive, and men have laughed at her while she said bitchy things, she thinks that's the same as being funny. I've watched her other videos and zero of them are funny. She's not actually a comedian. She's just a professional bitch.

Yeah, I didn't laugh at her video either, but I also didn't understand the level of outrage it had.

It's amazing how anyone can say anything now to the public with youtube.

Good for you. It is very easy to criticise -ists online, but to let one know, right to their face isn't easy.

Respect!

I remember there was this overweight girl in school that would be made fun of all the time, I hated it! One time the group I was sitting with at lunch were making fun of the way she chews, and I snapped at them. Mind you, I'm a quiet, reserved type of person... but sometimes I just cannot take people making fun of others, and I will defend them without them knowing.

If the woman in the video were to joke around like that in front of me when overweight people were around, then I'd snap at her, too.

However, because she is a "comedian", I just put her into the category of "comedians I don't find funny" and dismiss her. I will technically be "boycotting" her by avoiding all of her material lol

Of course, I'm sure we all notice "defects" and whatnot, but we definitely do not all point it out and make fun of such people, especially not right to their face or where they can hear it, I hope. Videos such as the one we are discussing is like saying it to the person's face but without having to see the pain you cause in the moment, but she sure is being told how everyone feels about it after the fact.

This might be a little off topic, but it popped into my head.

I remember this one time I was at karaoke with some friends. It was me and one of my best female friends, plus one of my best male friends and his significant other. Well, me and my female friend were looking at a TV near the stage and there were whales on it. We were like, "why are there whales on the TV?" and laughing (and yes we had a little alcohol, so we found it more funny than usual); it was so random.. and it wasn't even a documentary or anything... just pictures of whales lol anyway, my male friend's woman got really mad at us because it so happened that there were two overweight women on the stage at the time we were saying these things... they ASSUMED we were saying that about the women. I would NEVER do that!! I was kind of offended someone thought I'd actually do that. However, the whole night, I had no idea this happened! I just thought she was being moody for no reason, and it made me very uncomfortable.

I only found out because my friend was telling me how I wasn't socially mature and so on the next day.. I couldn't really understand why he was saying that to me, and then he finally spilled the beans. I did kind of laugh at that because... it's so typical for me to be saying/doing something that is totally taken out of context or taken the wrong way based on bad timing; you have no idea... but then at the same time for a friend to think that way of me did hurt.

and a complicated mental function.

People will make fun of you no matter your size; that is what I have learned. Some people are just mean.

I doubt everyone is that concerned about the health of others when they point out someone's weight. I know some truly are, but it doesn't seem as common... it seems more like they are disgusted than caring.

I know nobody (aside from family) is concerned about my health when they tell me how skinny (or anorexic) looking I am... They just think I choose to look this way and like to point it out to me.

I'll never understand why anyone does that. It's really nobody's business.

Everybody is a target.

In school, I was short.

Out of school, I was a catholic.

I got plenty too.

We have too much junk food and all you can eat buffets here...too many additives that get you addicted to fat and sugar. Food is an addiction just like cigs, booze and meds.

I tried to explain to my over weight friend...just detox on fat and sugar for two weeks..your body won't crave it anymore. And understand portions.  Just b/c you are served a giant sized plate of pasta at a restaurant doesn't mean you need to eat it all.