Slut walks

A slut walk?

Is that a "walk of shame"?

I've taught Self Defense classes in my Karate Dojo a few times.
I usually start by warning the girls like "how in the world did it get this far anyway"?

The vast majority of alleged assaults occur during dates, not someone jumping out of the bushes.

So I assign mutual fault.

Any girl over the age of 16 is obligated to make sure her date knows her limits.

In other words, if no sex is on the table she needs to make sure the guys is fully aware.

If some sex is allowable, then let him know what is and what isn't.

Too many girls go dating and don't communicate this.

So she engages in some heavy petting, nudity, and all of a sudden surprises the guy and says
she has had enough.

That is a serious, hurtful and surprising rejection.

And, it doesn't work all that well.

It often leads to anger, and force.

Don't think I let the guys off the hook.

They have the dual responsibility of communicating their desires instead of seeing how far
he can get her to go.

In the end this is more about respect for one another than anything else.

I'm willing to bet I have dated more guys than almost anyone else here.

And yes since I respect sex, like it, love it, if the guy is respectful, he will
have a good experience.

I have never, and I mean ever, had a problem or issue with any guy
or girl for that matter.

Still, I have only had intercourse with 3 different guys.

Yeah lots of intercourse, but limited to 3 guys.

Personally, I like being seduced by a nice guy or girl.

One other teeny tiny point.

All of these alleged sexual assaults, where in many cases she is the real problem,
trivializes true rape.

Have you ever seen a girl that was truly raped, gang raped, in the hospital?

I have!

Broken face, missing teeth, and so damaged psychologically she will probably
never be able to trust another man.

So girls protect yourself, protect your date, never lead them on (how cruel)
and have as much sex as you want, even if that means none.

I hope this helps.

BTW, my mom and aunts lived by this, and recited it to me when I was like 12.

Never did they tell me I could not have sex, sex was bad, or boys or girls were bad when it came to sex.

So I like sex, and believe me the guys love me, and so do most of the girls that allow it.

Love you all, with or without sex.

it is not that simple, at all Cher.

The cliche, "Just say no" never worked for drugs, food, discipline, or anything else.

Neither does jail as a deterrent

My mom, being a bruising attorney, nurse, and former HS principal
is very well versed in this..

She says 90% of date rapes are avoidable.
She has taught thousands of young people how to respect sex,
and the importance of mutual agreements.

She has also positively shredded prosecuting district attorneys on this,
and is even respected by some fem groups.

I agree totally.

Nor do not reserve the right to claim rape.

For me, a rape is a rape.

Sorry I disagree with that statement besides it falling into the "blame the victim" BS it also is a veiled insult towards men by sideways saying they are unable to control themselves. Sorry that is complete crap.

LOL..."walk of shame".... been there done that...only a couple times..but it was worth it....:wink:

Communication can only take you so far. If someone wants to rape you, then they will rape you. Telling them your boundaries won't do a thing to stop them.

I don't know why I would ever have to explain to any guy what I want or don't want prematurely; I have never planned any of the times I had sex. Sure, I might be like... "maybe tonight" to myself, but it's never a definite because I can change my mind. I have a right to change my mind without feeling guilty or obligated to still do something, everyone does (men and women).

LOL...when I was with my ex husband...I planned it..

1) walk the dogs
2) clean the kitchen
3) have sex

and it was b/c it was it was just biological.

Unplanned sex is the best kind! 

Yes exactly Val.

Rapists don't square off in a stance, pull punches, and fight on a mat.

Our Sensei (35 YO woman) made us one by one walk down a street alley, where she jumped
from hiding all of us individually.
She knocked every one of us to the ground and subdued us with various holds.

Back at the dojo we all questioned her on what and how could we avoid that in reality.

She simply said you don't ever belong in a dangerous situation like that.

Her claim, "you will lose, to any man, every single time".

They strike first, never give you a chance, you are immobilized
if not unconscious, and no amount of Karate will help.

It was compelling.