im so mean, i not like other peoples kids!!

Well, maybe don't boil them in hot water B.

Just use a stick to their bottoms.

Well, at least your son's name is Malakai rather than Malachai (Children of the Corn)! Kids can be respectful and then not so much. . . I talked to a little girl a few days ago and told her that "I'm Sorry." is Lo siento in Spanish. I saw her today and straight away she said "Lo siento"! I love the good kids because they like to learn. Maybe we should just have John Cleese silly-walk over the bad ones. Best of luck, Callie!

If you had kids, I'm pretty sure that you would raise them correctly, Val.

No, it makes you crackers.

the thing is, i do love them dearly, i really do, i see them as my family but that doesnt mean i have to like them right? i always asked before i got pregnant 'do you have more patience for your own kids than you do with other peoples, or am i just not cut out to be a mum' i do have more patience for M than i do other kids, but that could be his age too, we will soon see. i guess i just need to breathe, count to 10 and only tell them off when i see fit, the way i see it, if you are in my house you follow my rules, simple as

I love kids but once they reach that tweeny age and beyond they start to get annoying (and I hate to say this) especially girls. Boys are so simple, food, sleep, tv, video games, repeat and they are fine. Girls on the other hands....lets face it ladies we are just diabolical at that age,

oh i cant cope with girls, you know what, i think my buttons have well and truly been pushed.
my OHs youngest niece comes around alot, shes, lets just say.. a brat!! well and truly, shes never been made to share, or taught to share, or ensure she shares, so guess what, shes not too keen on sharing, she once pushed and threw a wooden brick at M bcos he was joining in when she was playing with them, she pushes him out of toys, away from toys, out of her way, she does it slyly, with her head, as though shes not pushing, just looking down, im not stupid enogh to believe her..
anyway, her parents are kinda sort of not really potty training, in other words they do when they cba, she was at ours with pants on, she did something to M and was ignoring me so i told her to go sit away from me and M until she can be nice, i did raise my voice a bit but i had enough of being ingnored, my house, my rules, anyway she stood up and pissed herself, purposely, her mum asked why, her reply 'calllie upset me' BS! if i upset her she would have done it right away not stood up then smirked at me. she is a very smart 3 year old.

anyway i think ive been tipped over the edge, she asked for a drink, so i got her a cup, the only open top cup that M has, she said something about it been her cup, her mum told her its Malakais, she threw a strop that M is not a big boy and doesnt need a big cup, so she can have it, when she was told again its not her cup she decided to spit in it!! now i know i can clean it, but that doesnt mean i go spitting in cups myself, it wasnt as though it was a mistake bcos she then continued to spit on her mum and my sofa, the worst thing is.. her mum is pregnant again -.-

does anyone think i was unreasonable to not let her have a drink after spitting in Ms cup?

You know what, Callie?

That kid is going home, and you don't have to look after it, it is not your problem. That kid is just as awful at her own home. You are bringing M up to your own standards.

My only concern is that you may have to refuse this child the opportunity to teach him bad behaviour.