On Again Off Again Relationships

Haha! I have never had friends or family be disappointed when I broke up with people. Usually it's the opposite ;-) But then it's like, "why didn't you tell me this before!?!"

However, I wasn't with my ex boyfriends very long.. so nobody became very attached to them. Maybe that is part of it?

Jen, was this your most recent boyfriend or a different one?

I haven't heard anything about your boyfriend in a while, so I was wondering if things were okay.

I was in one on again and off again relationship. I am also very against this sort of thing. But our particular relationship was a little different.

We started seeing each other right after he separated from his wife. We broke up the first time because I was not allowed at his house even though she was no longer living there. That really bothered me and I didn't want to be with someone exclusively when I couldn't be a part of their life in an aspect as simple as coming over to his house.

Anyway, we ended up getting back together because he missed me and he realized he was being unreasonable, so I was allowed into his home... but we broke up again a couple of months later because one night he told me he couldn't love me because I was "jealous of his ex" or something. So we were done.

Then he moved, got a condo and swore things would be different because he had his own place. And he was right, they were, it definitely felt like a real relationship. But his ex was still very much in the picture. Even though they had a kid together she was still far too involved. I couldn't deal with it anymore so I left him for the last time.

Now that I look back, it may have been a timing issue, but it still didn't explain all of his behaviors, especially now that I have been in almost his exact same situation and handled it completely different. I made sure my new bf knew how much he meant to me and as soon as my ex moved out, he came over and is welcome any time.

I see this ex from time to time, he comes into my work. We chat... but I have no more feelings for him because i knew it could never work, I also remember how hurt I was that he always put me on the backburner. I like to be number one.

You are a lovely person, the right guy will turn up. I can't see him missing out. 

One of the things I would do if I knew better when I was younger would be to go to a shrink after my first husband. Clearly I  picked a man that wasn't good for me. I really needed help figuring out why. 

I didn't do that, and my next long term relationship was with a man who was very similar....egotistical...his needs had to be met, rarely mine (except in the bedroom...that was a big part of why I stayed..LOL) but i wish I would have done that.

Probably should do that now.

I have loved and left more than a few.

To be honest I am in occasional touch with most of them.

I am probably much more liberal with my body than most here.

But, I guard my heart very very close.

So, no bad feelings so far.

Isn't that the description for everyone's dream guy?