Should I Join A Dating Site?

I don't have any experience.
But I've heard there are several new dating sites that actually introduced people in groups so that six or eight of you will go to dinner get to know each other in a friendly relaxed group setting.
That sounds much safer and much less pressure than the go on a dinner date with a total stranger idea.

I like the sound of that site. ^^

I'd suggest dipping your toes in "meetups" groups/events first. Research meetups in your area and join which one you see has a good number of male participants. This is a good practice to be out there with bunch of guys, conversing with them and who knows, there may be single males you can flirt with or date. If you haven't been in a relationship or date for long, you need to warm up and practice first Events like dance lessons are good too. Some guys attend dancing lessons to find dates and even potential gf. Go for Latin dance lessons. It's fun and sexy. If you are open to explore, you will enjoy the experience and make new friends even if you don't end up getting a date. Dating site is a hit-or-miss thing. Research on which one is available in your area/town. Avoid Tinder or any that promotes hook up dating unless that's what you are after. Good luck.

I am surprised and pleased with all your words of wisdom!

I think I will join a dating group setting, rather than one-on-one. There's much less pressure that way and it is safer. The old f***buddy isn't for me ATM.

I shall get out there and get my hands dirty!

I read your post with interest, Rebecca Jo: there are some bad apples in a barrel. It is good, though, that you gave dating and meetups a chance: I shall do the same. You're - like me - still living your life and getting out & about. As long as a person has an active social life, there is very much a chance of meeting that special someone. Meeting people and enjoying the single life will attract the right person.

Hello a_muppet.

I just figure if I go out & about and socialize and make the most of opportunities then I WILL meet someone special. Unfortunately, there are no suitable men at my social club. Believe me, if there were, I'd be dating already. No: I have to go into Internet dating. But one of my good friends' had an ugly experience with Internet dating: he drove her in his car and stopped in a darkened car park. He told her he wanted to have sex with her. But she said there could be CCTV and they would be seen. He drove her back to her destination and never called again. Now, she wasn't murdered, but if he'd been a psychopath on the hunt, she could've been. She also could have been raped.

She never used Internet dating again after that.

Popcorn&Candy,Your friend dodged a bullet so good for her.

I was never told by any guy I chanced from internet dating that they wanted to have sex with me. Not a direct say. That would be off-putting for me. What I received was a little bit of "would you like to see my place," "don't go yet, can we kiss more at the back seat" and "you're really sexy." In dating, I saw being Asian as an advantage simply because those men who I dated understood or maybe tolerated where I was coming from when I said that I didn't sleep around and sex was not a recreation in my culture. So, these men tried to dance with my rules. I know that one tried to go beyond but I was quick to call it quits. No hard feelings. Like I mentioned before, I was fortunate to have met nice guys.

Internet dating: always make sure you make it obvious with the guy that a friend or family knows where you are and who you are with. First meeting: meet in daytime, in a coffeeshop. First impression. Is he good? Is there a chemistry? Second meeting: Daytime, in a park and cafe. Giving yourself a chance to know him more or giving him a chance that he's not a creep or a dork (some girls like dork, though). Third meeting: go out in a movie then dinner. This means you are probably enjoying his company? Fourth meeting: Day out in a popular beach or local tourist destination. Sure. Why not spend more time to know each other better? Fifth: Dinner and maybe dancing if it's a pub with disco. Getting comfortable now? After five meetings, you probably can gauge if you want to see him more and more. If not, drop it and move on. That was me by the way.

Hello Cattleya.

I will take your advice. I have not yet signed up for Internet dating, but I will give it a chance. At the end of the day, no one is perfect. Not everyone looks perfect. Not everyone has similar ideals to me. He may be a god but if he's a racist - or worse still - a nazi, then I'd move on. Looks alone aren't enough. He may be blonde. He may have gone to university. But he may look down on those who didn't go that far with their education. There are no guarantees basically and I have to be realistic. Worst still, he could be a psychopath or narcissist. I seriously hope that doesn't happen.

I will be thinking about his personality. About his attitude to his family. I won't propose on the first date. I certainly won't control him or try to change him. He'll be as he is and if I don't like it, I will date someone else instead.