I did a rush move when I married my wife. I was young, and we got married in Las Vegas. It was a legit minister and he showed me his credentials, before that was the legal paperwork which is the real marriage in the law's eyes. I wish I couldn't done it over and given my wife a proper wedding. I will live with this regret forever.
You can. There are no laws against marrying the same person twice.
we had a huge family party that was a Japanese style one where both families met and celebrated. I was not official a marrage one but just like a japanese wedding, same place, same outfits, but it was called something different, like family something, I can't remember it.
Post by TestDummyCO on Dec 30, 2022 11:20:45 GMT -5
I was never one for large weddings. There are sooooo many more important things on which to spend that money...like a down-payment on a house, etc.
My first wedding was small. Ex and I were married in a small chapel on Fort Carson (since demolished). Then ten of us had lunch at the Broadmoor.
Current Hubby and I got married in Vegas. We pre-registered online before we left, so we were able to bypass the ~30 couples in line at the Marriage License Bureau..in and out in five minutes. It took us longer to find a parking spot! We spent less then $100 on the wedding itself. It wasn't a drive-through, and Elvis was not invited. LOL The officiant performed the ceremony and signed the license, the photographer put the pics on a CD, and we were on our way.
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I did not have big wedding or engagement party either, 75 guests at the engagement and about 150 guests at the party but I am Asian so we had a tradition to follow and the events were rather formal.
I don't really do online hugs or any online physical stuff. Online is purely cerebral for me.
as a small footnote cyber sex is just silly.
yes, I agree a_muppet I will respect your personal boundaries. I agree cybersex is silly (I have a much worse word but I'll just go with silly for now)
I don't really do online hugs or any online physical stuff. Online is purely cerebral for me.
as a small footnote cyber sex is just silly.
yes, I agree a_muppet I will respect your personal boundaries. I agree cybersex is silly (I have a much worse word but I'll just go with silly for now)
Oh, don't get me wrong. I think cyber sex is great for those who get it. I just don't. I probably lack imagination. So for me it is silly. I have tried it with guys that shared a mutual interest, but I just felt, as I said, a bit silly.
yes, I agree a_muppet I will respect your personal boundaries. I agree cybersex is silly (I have a much worse word but I'll just go with silly for now)
Oh, don't get me wrong. I think cyber sex is great for those who get it. I just don't. I probably lack imagination. So for me it is silly. I have tried it with guys that shared a mutual interest, but I just felt, as I said, a bit silly.
I don't agree it's a good practice as it's against my beliefs on masterbations but that is my beliefs. No worries
Oh, don't get me wrong. I think cyber sex is great for those who get it. I just don't. I probably lack imagination. So for me it is silly. I have tried it with guys that shared a mutual interest, but I just felt, as I said, a bit silly.
I don't agree it's a good practice as it's against my beliefs on masterbations but that is my beliefs. No worries
To me any sex is a positive as long as everyone is consensual over it, and no-one is being cheated. So masturbation is, for me, a definite positive.
Of course there are exceptions to every rule.
Are you against all forms of masturbation, Dominic?
I don't agree it's a good practice as it's against my beliefs on masterbations but that is my beliefs. No worries
To me any sex is a positive as long as everyone is consensual over it, and no-one is being cheated. So masturbation is, for me, a definite positive.
Of course there are exceptions to every rule.
Are you against all forms of masturbation, Dominic?
let me explain my logic, perhaps we will agree or agree to disagree
masterbation...I did it since age 5, I have been here for a little time, and I explained my sex addiction story. I read how you don't like to be treated as pieces of meat...which is what I thought you all were, just that, meat.
how does it make you feel that most men will look at you, no better, no value, but just your breasts, or body parts?
Let me reverse it,
how would I feel if I walked around and all women or 98% looked at me in porn video, to, in their mind, sexually fantasize about my body, and wishing they had me in their beds...not physical but in their mind...what would you call this? honestly? this is not mere masturbation now we are talking about...we are talking about sexual fantasy, am I right. Yes, it's true.
so, do I want you to sexually fantasize about me? 100% NO!!! and I can read the past comments here, I know I know I KNOW that you also do not want me to do that to you. How do I know? I read the comments when I asked these questions in the beginning. In fact, I was told to calm down on my asking you all of these sexually charged questions...
back to this now....my logic.
so if you don't want making you my personal sexual meat fantasy...and I don't want you to do that...then there are also other guys an other women who ALSO do not want this too...
but why?
come on sex is fun right?
orgasm feels good right?
if it feels good do it right?
it's my body right?
you can't judge me right?
I can't judge you right?
faithfulness
that is the key word
another is holiness
two key words
If I am married to my wife, I am giving my body to her and my mind to her. Let me ask you,
If I have sex with my wife, and I am thinking of you..guess who I am really having sex with ...not physically, but in my mind,,,that is called "adultery" according to Jesus.
so...
mastrubation is the outwards effects of lusting in the heart.
what other forms of masterbation?
what if my wife is on her period? can I mastrubate? no. I wait for her to be off her period and when she is ready and willing and not tired..THAT is proper, THAT is what she wants, and THAT is what I also want, I have learned this the hard way and I have also confirmed that the Bible also teaches this too.
So masturbation...
other forms?
what if I am away on a business trip and she send me nudes , can I jack off?
but it's her body?
do I?
no
why not?
because masturbation is having sex with my own hands, and it's not having sex with my wife.
My penis is perfectly shaped to enter into her, not be used on my hands.
Also, I can learn and practice patience, as I need that.
AND.
I have done this. I have made these person sex videos and tried to use them for my own masturbation in the past, do you know what that led me to...guess. back to porn, all man, and it took me years and years to finally realize and finally get help from God to stop it, which is why more and more I do believe God is real. I have experience Him.
Masturbation is really just seeking comfort in something or something else, and I have learnd that I can find all of this comfort for free in God, in Jesus Christ who loves me unconditionally who never masturbated once.
Get this..
Joseph, Mary's husband, did not know Mary until after Jesus was born, do the math, that is 10 months or 9 months of a man patiently waiting for his wife. Wow. How a man can do that, only with God's help. More proof.
I don't blame others for masturbating. I was addicted since age 5. I'm 40 now. Last time I did was last year Sept 20, 2021, why do I tell you that, like you care right. It's to show you that God lives inside me and helps me everyday self-control.
And I want to be faithful to God now and faithful to my wife and not think of you all as pieces of meat, because you are so much much more than that. I wish I could tell you.
I'm not upset. I'm just explaining myself to you a_muppet so you can see my logic.
I'm also not proud either. I am not proud of my past adultery ,porn addiction, and prostitute ways, I am seeking holiness, and faithfulness.
Ok, I can see where you are coming from. I see it as quite harmless for women. Men is a different matter. Can I suggest you look into this? My understanding that men who do it less than every few weeks are setting themselves up as being a higher risk of testicular cancer, and prostate cancer.
I understand that they need clearing out regularly for the sake of your health. So, if you are not practicing it with your wife, then you should be clearing them out on your own, with her approval and encouragement imo, if she wants you to be healthy.
Ok, I can see where you are coming from. I see it as quite harmless for women. Men is a different matter. Can I suggest you look into this? My understanding that men who do it less than every few weeks are setting themselves up as being a higher risk of testicular cancer, and prostate cancer.
I understand that they need clearing out regularly for the sake of your health. So, if you are not practicing it with your wife, then you should be clearing them out on your own, with her approval and encouragement imo, if she wants you to be healthy.
Ok, I can see where you are coming from. I see it as quite harmless for women. Men is a different matter. Can I suggest you look into this? My understanding that men who do it less than every few weeks are setting themselves up as being a higher risk of testicular cancer, and prostate cancer.
I understand that they need clearing out regularly for the sake of your health. So, if you are not practicing it with your wife, then you should be clearing them out on your own, with her approval and encouragement imo, if she wants you to be healthy.
I think male bodies have a thing called "nocturnal emissions" and guys who are sexually sober and not watching porn and not masterbating, keeping themselves faithful for their future wives (I'm sure these future wives will appreciate that their husband is not sexually fantasizing other women).
nocturnal emissions (aka wet dreams) is when the extra semen is released naturally in their sleep. So no need to masturbate. I think someone might "abuse" themselves and think "oh man, I just need to bust a nut right now,...ahhh, done, I have a good prostate now" is actually making room for a setup to watch porn, because what is next, a little more comprise and a little more steps in the direction ...and now we got more and more men treating women as meat (aka "making all women their personal whore" in their minds) but smiling at you in real life (a fake lifestyle) to me and against faithfulness and righteousness"
I think healthy marriage is needed, both consentual, both wanting it, not like "come here women, please me women" no no x 100 times no. I will wait and have waited for my wife until she is ready and let the nocturnal emissions naturally take care of the health of my prostate.
Once my wife had an etopic pregnancy, I waited 30 days and on that day, when we did, it was glorious. 'm glad I waited and not beat my meat. God helped me control it and I am not bragging. I need God's help everyday, I'm just a few steps falling off into the abyss and I don't want that for me, for my wife, for my children and for my own sanity and for my close relaltionship with my Jesus.
I don't want any lust in my life.
There are times I am super horny and I ask my wife for help and she's like no, I am like "ok" so I pray and change my mind...guess what...My erection is gone, wow, no masturbation. Thank you Jesus. This is how God helps me. and guys who can't do that, I try to encourage them from the Bible and prayers, and I'm not any better than them at all. I want to show them verses like how Joseph waited for Mary for 9 months, and other verses like the other Joseph in Genesis 39 when his bosses wife grabbed Joseph wanting to sleep with him and Joseph ran away. I want all men to be holy like these guys, not treating you precious souls and you precious women as dirty, cheap, pieces of meat. You are far more than that
Plus, masturbation is an isolating and sad act. I have not felt good when I did it .I felt orgasm, but so what...my right hand? that cheap porn picture? I am ashamed of doing that in the past. I hurts my wife too. She doesn't want me to hold my penis, while in my mind I am holding "another womens" breasts, how this affects her is really really bad and once I put my self in her shoes, I am now understanding what kind of damage I am doing to her.
For example, let's say I am not able to have sex for some medical reason or some attitude reasons, and my wife said "it's ok babe, but do you mind of I just masturbate and at these guys with humungous penises and doing sex acts and I image that it was their penis penetrating me, because I'm super horny and I need release"
I would say "no, please don't do that, I want you to think of me, if you are horny, let me please you, I will" so ...that is how I think
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LOL! It's me. I'm taking my break at work. Otherwise I'll get done too soon. I watched an interesting documentary last night then started on the Mindy project. Having cheesy Chex mix & peanut m & m's. Hope you girls are doing well.
LOL! It's me. I'm taking my break at work. Otherwise I'll get done too soon. I watched an interesting documentary last night then started on the Mindy project. Having cheesy Chex mix & peanut m & m's. Hope you girls are doing well.
LOL! It's me. I'm taking my break at work. Otherwise I'll get done too soon. I watched an interesting documentary last night then started on the Mindy project. Having cheesy Chex mix & peanut m & m's. Hope you girls are doing well.
Sneaking in are you? lol...
yeah i couldn't remember my password. lol! i changed it now so it's all good.
So I went to the market at lunch time today, I got a bag of something like waffles, but they rolled it then called it a cake, I will try it tomorrow but it looks kind of strange.
So I went to the market at lunch time today, I got a bag of something like waffles, but they rolled it then called it a cake, I will try it tomorrow but it looks kind of strange.
So I went to the market at lunch time today, I got a bag of something like waffles, but they rolled it then called it a cake, I will try it tomorrow but it looks kind of strange.
That does sound odd... Tell us if you liked it.
Very starchy, I am going to leave them in the breakroom at work tomorrow.
I have to admire this lad's mum, but even more his school friends, who are obviously not giving him a hard time. It never happened when I was at school, but I am sure it would not have gone down so easily in my day. Then his peers would have had a right go at him for it.
I am tired! I spent two and half hours studying today (and I feel like I've learned nothing). Usually I study Chinese for an hour tops but I was in the groove today lol.
I am tired! I spent two and half hours studying today (and I feel like I've learned nothing). Usually I study Chinese for an hour tops but I was in the groove today lol.
How is everyone else doing?
Good. I just finished hanging up the laundry, and hoovering. I am about to take Boo for a walk.
Incidentally, two more posts and you will be a full member.
a_muppet: Ha, I just spotted you, Noeleena - sneaking in. ::Sgc7Hl4::
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TestDummyCO: WOF has creaky floors. ::mCOIty6::
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jen: It's good to know you are still here Noeleena ::Sgc7Hl4::
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Ɖσмιиιc ♰: creaking floors, you make me laugh, Cherry has good eyes huh?
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noeleena: Thank you i do come in allmost every night ,just dont allways have some thing to say ,of cause you know i,m a spy....lol,s.
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MaryContrary: lol hi noeleena!
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MaryContrary: she's like the wof elf on a shelf *giggles*
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