Why do you think women are....

Wow, I guess my wife had a point and you are confirming it, but what about the happy office women who seem to like each other. It seems like it's kinda of real, even if it's just being polite, that is what I am after I guess but for 'how to learn it for guys to guys'.

I'm not gay by the way, I just wanted to learn more heartfelt things, even I am even saying it right. Perhaps, I don't know really what I'm asking. But thank you for your kindness.

Yeah, in the office of guys I work with, in IT, there is some who feel like "if I say that to him, he might think, I'm trying to top his advice, which might make him look bad', well, I think like that so I just shutup and let him talk and I already made up my mind. Thank you.

Agreed.. it can just be differences in how we're raised or what we're told we're supposed to be like. All humans have the ability to be compassionate, empathetic, and show emotion. Men are usually just taught it's not manly, but it's perfectly normal and natural to have the same thoughts or feelings as women. People are people.. we have a wide range of emotions.

I am thankful because my parents let me be myself. If I said I didn't want to wear dresses anymore, and that I liked pants instead, then my mom would buy me nice pants to wear during the holidays instead lol I could play with any toys I wanted. I was not told what was for girls and what was for boys. I did have a brother growing up, so I had some interests that were similar to him.

We're not less of women or less of men for having interests or feelings that are more 'common' in one gender over another. We do not have to be cookie cutter versions of anything.


As for being friendly, I'm naturally that way, but I'm also very quiet in person. I'm not social at all, and I don't make friends very easily because I don't talk enough most of the time. I've never been the social butterfly type, and I usually need others to speak to me first, or I won't say anything. I'm way more social online because it's easier for me to say what I'm thinking that way.

So, I can't really provide pointers on how to get people to open up other than to just be genuine... show that you care and are willing to listen without judgement. Share your stories and experiences in hopes it can encourage others to tell their truths, too. For some reason, complete strangers tend to share their whole life story to me immediately after meeting me... I don't know if people can just pick up on a vibe or sense that you're someone they can open up to or what. I've been told I have a 'calming aura' LOL I call it my boring aura where I make people too comfortable that they get sleepy around me.

He needs to learn how to handle stress better.

"Why do you think women are more kind and nice to each other rather than males? --- I don't. I don't think that men are any lesser in being kind and nice among themselves compared with how women treat each other (being nice and kind). Women show it differently. Men show it differently. You've observed this already and that's how it is. We are wired differently to each other.

"can you teach a man what you do, to be more friendly to his other male friends, to open up, like you women do?" --- Every individual is unique. It is not about gender but multi factors surrounding or within the individual as pointed out by other members. I would caution you not to fall in the tendency of mirroring how women open up or interact to each other. If a man wants to be more open, to be more capable of showing kindness, compassion to other men, then he must reflect first towards his SELF. From there, he will find the answer. It may take time but like what my mother used to tell me, "anything that is worthwhile taking, anything that is beautiful takes time."

Alternatively, if you need a comprehensive explanation to all your questions, you may burn the midnight oil researching on scientific journals (make sure they are peer reviewed) and yeah, let us know what you find. It'll be a good topic for discussion, I guess.

Thank you for helping me understand.

mmmm, I'm looking for roots in me, root and similarities in cultures, to find truth, confirmation and testing my self and others. I guess I am doing that.

Dude, overthinking is going to tire your brain. You're gonna look 10x older. Just chill, man.

There are days I wish we could get away with shouting at each other and punching one another.