Struggling With Jealousy

Remember, don't compare yourself to others; that is the quickest way to feel sad and dissatisfied. You are not them, and they are not you. All you can do is strive to be the best version of yourself, but it may look different than the best of others. That's okay, and it doesn't make you a loser or mean anything is wrong with you. If there is anything you are unhappy about with yourself, and if it's something you can actually work on and change, then go for it. If it's not something you can change or control, then learn to accept it so you can be at peace.

I find that I usually now look at such things as agrievations not jealousy's. In that way I can cast them aside and, in doing so, make positive steps rather than brooding and getting depressed.

You have more than you realise!

Thank you everyone. And thank you, cassie, too: your post has highlighted things I DO have.

1. A talent for writing: I am a skilled writer. It just never occured to me anyone would begrudge me that. I guess someone else being jealous is something that doesn't first come to mind. I do know I am good at writing, though: I've read my work and it WORKS. I am just sorry others feel threatened by me. It's sad, really.

2. I am always trying to better myself: like being someone who fixes things. I have always strived to fix myself. I feel it important to be the better person. I feel it important to respect those around me and not alienate anyone for any reason. Not to be popular and gain power: but out of genuine niceness.

3. I have a very loving family. They are a little critical sometimes but they are family. I wouldn't trade my dad for all the money in the world.

4. I have a home that I love. It may be a small apartment, but it is mine and is always being decorated and sorted out. For instance, my dad is redecorating my bathroom. I have a wonderful white painted bedroom. I love my apartment and would not be anywhere else. It is small but cosy and perfect for me.

I am not perfect but I do like to be a decent person who follows the rules and gets along with people. This is at odds with the "aggressors" [what I call nasty people] BUT I don't want to label myself in a way they would. I don't want to be a loser. I don't want to be stolen from. I don't like being told what I can and cannot do. It's all very frustrating but they are under my skin.

It'd be nice to be a thick skinned person, whom nobody can bother, but that is not me. I am all too human.

I used to be jealous of people until I realized that in order to have that kind of popularity I'd have to become like them and that's the last thing I'd ever want. Some of those people are so awful I'd rather spend my life being a loser.

Sucking up is the lowest of the low: it IS pathetic. I wouldn't be jealous of her either, quite frankly.
I have to agree with this. There are truly awful people out there and I NEVER want to be their friend. In fact, there are people I tried to be friends with but they've turned cold. Ice cold. I just cannot get along with them and doubt they'll ever warm up to me. Maybe - therefore - I'd be happier as a "loser". Who wants to be friends with a crowd of eejits?

Even if I could sing, I'd be destroyed. I'd no doubt be a one-hit wonder if I worked in the music industry.

They all end up a diva after that amount of success!