My Sister Made Me Want To Hate Her

Hoarding is such a dreadful thing: and there's no cure. The person has to choose for themselves to clean up their trash. I guess no matter how helpful the samaritan the hoarder will re-fill their home with trash. It's a shame, though.

How anyone can be comfortable with piles and piles of useless stuff blocking their home is a mystery to me. I'd would literally go mad. Objects are just objects: I often ask myself, if there was a fire, would I miss said-objects? If the answer is no, it goes in the bin outside.

Back to my sister: she secretly went through the piles of trash and reclaimed some items. I think she realizes now that my dad won't tolerate hoarding in his home: not even in her bedroom. My dad has decided this: if my sister wants to hoard, she'll have to move out and hoard in her own home. He won't tolerate it.

I have a sister, i see her very, very rarely. I never complain about her.

Seriously, I expect we will die strangers.

I seldom see my sister either. We are in contact a little though. Gone are the days when families mostly lived close. My mum really misses that.

Relationships/friends/family are never easy.

I guess you just have to leave your aunt to it, heatherly. Unfortunately if someone does not want to change/be a better person, they won't. Personally, I just accept people as they are and don't try to change them. If they're stuck in their ways, I just leave it as their problem. I don't dirty my shoes with others muck.

I guess not all siblings become best friends. It's a shame, really.

Definitely... there are pieces of all of our personalities that have a chance to clash, even if you mostly get along.

My brother thinks my sister was bullying me: I wonder sometimes if she does a bit.

My brother doesn't visit very often, but he saw how aggressive my sister was with me in the kitchen. And I have to agree with my brother: she was.

I don't really know how to properly stand up for myself: I can't shout or yell abuse. I just don't know how to tackle this issue with my sister, in a calm and forthright manner: I don't want to put up more walls.

Jen's right. But meanwhile write her a letter telling you how she is making you feel.

Due to my husband's neurological condition he can sometimes be rude hurtful and tactless. I have mastered the art of simply giving him a very cold stare turning around and leaving the room.
By not engaging with him I force him to think about what he has said,when he does stop and think he realises what he has said was unacceptable and he will apologise.
Maybe a similar technique would work with your sister it's passive-aggressive you don't have to argue but you make it very obvious that she has done something wrong.

I could also use the advice. The middle guy seems to thrive on debate/argument lately, and most of the time it just causes relationship issues. And with me as the one on the other end of the "discussion" he wants to have, there's a likelihood I'll take it personally as a challenge on authority. I don't mean to, but my mind and heart go that way if I'm not careful.

With the oldest, I get his attention with his name and shake my head. He usually figures out what not to do pretty quickly. I think it's time to do that with all of them, or the stare when needed. I don't actually see this as passive-agressive myself, since it's a form of communication and spelling it out with the middle guy would just be seen as part of the debating and wouldn't stop anything... We do what we have to in order to communicate without a big blow-up!