Friendless (G)

Same. I always knew I liked being more secluded, but now that I have had an excuse to be even more alone and not having to be in crowded places... I don't know if I want to return to "normal" ever lol

I am happy being alone, but I like busy. So I enjoy shopping, going to bars, and nightclubs. I particularly enjoy dancing, but happy to be left alone.

My idea of a good social event at these types of venues is people acknowledging me with a smile, or a couple of words.

I am not looking or wanting to break into conversation.

Seems we are all a little strange in our own ways.

Would someone more socially ebullient on the forum be a good thing?

Ok, how about this for a question?

Given that we all get along pretty well on this thread. That we all are fundamentally loners, and that we are not unhappy being loners.

If we all lived on the same street, would we hang out together as a group much?

Or do you think our coffee morning would involve an ever changing two or three wondering if the others were coming along later?

How did you acquire such trust when you are not social?

Sounds to me as if you are a closet friendly person. 

'Occasional' sounds like the sort of plan that would maybe suit a group like us.

Not necessarily. LOL

I kind of like our little group just as we are. I don't see a lot of fighting and there's lots of compassion. Good stuff.

We have a lead at work that is all about the popularity. She's popular but lazy as hell. Has her head shoved up both bosses butts all the time. I almost asked her one day if it was dark where she was. LOL

Sometimes I get invited places and if I say no then a big stink ensues. So sometimes I will say yes and just not go. Usually it's invites to a group gathering so they're not gonna miss me. If they ask me about it later I just tell them my lungs were bothering me and I wasn't feeling well or something.

One of the most embarrassing moments was once when I let my guard slip. My excuse Id had a couple of glasses of wine.

Id spent the evening with OH and a couple he knew via his work in London. The wife and I had had some pretty deep conversations about her body image she was the roughly the same height and weight as me but she felt big and carried herself badly we chatted about self value being the key. Then she confided that she was adopted and we talked about her troubles with that.. Obviously a few things I said made sense to her and she seemed really happy..

Now normally I can walk away from these things with a cheery smile and a wave, see you soon kind of thing and no one even thinks about the fact they have no idea how to contact me or where Im from.

But this lady was different we parted and she said lets keep in touch. Although I replied in the positive she saw through it, she stopped and said 'Im never going to see you again am I'?

Choosing honesty I said 'no I dont think you will'

I hugged her and wished her well but her face was like a child who had lost her favourite toy. I wonder was this a friend I let get away or was she just someone who needed a person to cling to?.

Mostly it's them.

I know what you are saying, I am the same. Even in a social context, I don't like aimless discussion.

I also found it easier to make friends with men, mainly because my interests were more common with men when I was growing up. Now I can find more ladies with similar interests to me all around the world, so making friends with women online is working out better for me lol

You work in a fascist collective? 


Just playing.