Husband has been seeing dominatrices for years

You need to think this through. If you get divorced and if he got shared custody, how can you be sure that the kids won't be exposed to that? You need to consult a lawyer if you really want a divorce but if you want to keep your family together, why don't you suggest therapy to him?

Keep in mind this is purely sex. He has a submissive kink, and bisexual leanings. This does not reflect on you, or possibly his feelings towards you, you have done nothing wrong, and are not to blame for any of this.

It is possible for him to stop, but it is fairly unlikely, and certainly trust will now be irrepairable.

The choice is either divorce, or accept that he is so inclined, and you can live with it to a degree agreed between yourselves.

So give yourself some space to reflect on what you are going to do. But of you decide to keep him, he needs testing for std's.

I hope you get through this ok, and remember that 'we' are here for you if you want to rant, or just chat.

Hi, I'm brand new to this forum. First off all I hope you have found resolution in your situation with your husband. I was going through the discussion topics and yours stood out to me, I am in a unique situation and may be able to provide some insite on this...I have been very involved in the BDSM scene for the last 4 years or so and my role is that of a Mistress/Dom. I currently live with my submissive boyfriend 24/7. We are completely invested into our relationship and both live our roles to the fullest. He is completely happy to be fully objectified by me and knows that his place in life is to serve me. I am the "bread winner" in the home, I work full time while he stays at home and completes whatever task I tell him to do until I get in from work. I keep him in a chastity device with clamp squeezing his testicles until I get home, and releasing his testicles from the vice only if everything is done to my satisfaction. If he fails a task he is punished severely,usually by his balls lool. I know I am very lucky to have found a beta male willing to subject himself 24/7 to all my wants and wishes. I guess my point is that you would be surprised at how many men are into this...maybe if you and your husband had a discussion about his fetishes, you could come to some sort of arrangement in which both of you fulfill your deepest desires with each other...I know my relationship would be considered extreme for most people but it's what works for us. Also not to mention how inflicting pain to certain parts a man's body makes me feel as a woman. I would love to hear your opinion on this. Give it a try, maybe you will find out something about yourself you never knew...

Boss Emy

Yes, it's all about consent.