Post by happyhousewife on Aug 23, 2015 6:28:56 GMT -5
I'm happy and not at all bored with my husband. He's my best friend. We don't go out, but neither of us are really people who like to go out a lot, so we don't care.
My parents were very monogamous. My Dad was my Mom's second boyfriend and first love. My Mom was my Dad's first girlfriend. They've been married for 40 years and had a dysfunctional relationship for most of that. Probably they should have divorced with the kind of fights they had, but now, somehow, things got a lot better. They fought HORRIBLY when I was a kid thought and my Dad has always been controlling and mean to my Mom. He still tells her that she has to be submissive and he questions her intelligence constantly.
Because of this, I have always been very, very monogamous I think. Once I fall in love with someone, I am determined to make it work no matter what. I've had only two serious relationships in my life. The first one, the guy was abusive and neglected me. He was just like my Dad has been to my Mom in a lot of ways, but worse in some ways. So I get what you mean about repeating what your parents do.
But my husband is amazing and super nice, so it all worked out in the end. He taught me what a healthy relationship was and because I had a bad one in the past, I am extra appreciative of him.
Unfortunately I am slowly realizing it will not work for me.
I refuse to force it for convention.
Whatever the cost I guess I will have to bear it.
Maybe not though, maybe.
So far Mr./Ms. right has yet to show.
Instead I have more than a few "Right Nows:.
But I don't think anyone should feel like they are forced to have any kind of relationship.
My brother is asexual. He's 25 and he's never even had a girlfriend. He's just not that interested in relationships, period, but I bet people are going to try to pressure him into finding a girl to date and/or marry someday and I'm like,"Why?" No one should feel pressured or like they have to do anything.
People who get forced into marrying someone are just going to be resentful and then both people will wind up unhappy.
Everyone doesn't need to be the same or identical. We are all unique.