At 42 years old I doubt there's a danger of me being abused!
Luckily I have had no personal experience but it does happen. I think many men see things passing by and get frustrated. particularly as they no longer have their youthful looks. They also often have less patience.
I'm talking about two consenting ADULTS: NOT teenagers.
It is deeply wrong for a teenager to date a grown adult.
I've NEVER suggested a teenager should have a relationship with an older man.
The thing is the legal age for consent in the uk is 16. There is no law regarding whats right and wrong regarding age gaps. So its left to the morality of the people and the red tops (if its someone famous) to be judge and jury.
The case I was referring to involves no teenagers but the gap is large ... So the morality police have been out in force.
My husband is 7 years older than me which is nothing.. But Ive known him since I was 5... We started dating when I was 16, he was 23 and married soon after..He says he is waiting for the knock at the door which accuses him of grooming.. The phrase childhood sweethearts used to be a romantic and cute ideal. Now it carries the weight of filthy minds.
I'm talking about two consenting ADULTS: NOT teenagers.
It is deeply wrong for a teenager to date a grown adult.
I've NEVER suggested a teenager should have a relationship with an older man.
The thing is the legal age for consent in the uk is 16. There is no law regarding whats right and wrong regarding age gaps. So its left to the morality of the people and the red tops (if its someone famous) to be judge and jury.
The case I was referring to involves no teenagers but the gap is large ... So the morality police have been out in force.
My husband is 7 years older than me which is nothing.. But Ive known him since I was 5... We started dating when I was 16, he was 23 and married soon after..He says he is waiting for the knock at the door which accuses him of grooming.. The phrase childhood sweethearts used to be a romantic and cute ideal. Now it carries the weight of filthy minds.
This ^^ is a good example as to why you should not generalise. I would have been very uncomfortable if any of my daughters at 16 wanted to date a 23 year old man. Though, I would not have made much of it had it happened.
However, Cassie and her husband have proved it is very doable, and teenagers can make the right choice.
My husband is 7 years older than me which is nothing.. But Ive known him since I was 5... We started dating when I was 16, he was 23 and married soon after..He says he is waiting for the knock at the door which accuses him of grooming.. The phrase childhood sweethearts used to be a romantic and cute ideal. Now it carries the weight of filthy minds.
Then you know the appeal of an older man.
I like mature men: I always will. And no: they are not cradle snatchers.
I,m stuck in a place of what do i do, scout around for food water and a place to sleep is the place friendly or do i have to be on guard ,the last thing on my mind is a male there or not i dont really care , would the guy have what on his mind , you see i,m very independent .
So would he work with me or not ether way i dont care, remember i,m Military and have been in places that you need gear to survive in or make what you need plus i have had men work for me and grunts as well Army slang for nco,s plus you have to make sure you got it right make a mistake and can be the end,
Now many men dont like a woman in charge,so comes to who has the experance to get you through and stay alive till your found or find a way home ,
Post by Popcorn&Candy on Jun 16, 2023 1:44:58 GMT -5
I'm independent myself, Noeleena. But I'd still like to have someone to love. Having a special man in my life - not my father - would be wonderful. I also don't play silly games: I don't sleep around, either.
Post by akindredspirit on Apr 8, 2024 0:57:07 GMT -5
I've read some memoirs/semi-autobiographical prose that talk about women and their experiences with older, tall, dark, and brooding men. On paper, that kind of person is beyond attractive (the idea at least), but in real life, I'm not entirely sure. I've only met and developed friendships with men who are roughly the same age as men. I've had crushes on guys who are younger than me, but they don't last very long, and my current boyfriend is the same age! I think that going out with an older man is a fantasy to me, and I think if I pursued one, it'd end in a disaster. I have a feeling it'll end in those stories, where the man reveals he's actually married, or that he needs to settle with an older woman! But that's just me scaring myself.
I've read some memoirs/semi-autobiographical prose that talk about women and their experiences with older, tall, dark, and brooding men. On paper, that kind of person is beyond attractive (the idea at least), but in real life, I'm not entirely sure. I've only met and developed friendships with men who are roughly the same age as men. I've had crushes on guys who are younger than me, but they don't last very long, and my current boyfriend is the same age! I think that going out with an older man is a fantasy to me, and I think if I pursued one, it'd end in a disaster. I have a feeling it'll end in those stories, where the man reveals he's actually married, or that he needs to settle with an older woman! But that's just me scaring myself.
I've read some memoirs/semi-autobiographical prose that talk about women and their experiences with older, tall, dark, and brooding men. On paper, that kind of person is beyond attractive (the idea at least), but in real life, I'm not entirely sure. I've only met and developed friendships with men who are roughly the same age as men. I've had crushes on guys who are younger than me, but they don't last very long, and my current boyfriend is the same age! I think that going out with an older man is a fantasy to me, and I think if I pursued one, it'd end in a disaster. I have a feeling it'll end in those stories, where the man reveals he's actually married, or that he needs to settle with an older woman! But that's just me scaring myself.
Once you're my age older men lose their appeal. If they are not married then they are sure to have baggage in the form of divorces or children. Or have a bevvy of aches and pains. And thats being positive.
One older lady I knew met a "nice man" he was a recent widower ,after their first meeting he took her to his home which he apologised for being a tip so she helped him clean and showed him how to work the washing machine. They had a couple of nice dates then he took her to his house again which was just as messy as the first time. He obviously expected her to clean it again but instead she called herself a taxi and told him to hire a cleaner.
Ive told my husband if he dies or leaves me I will get another dog, they are great company they dont hog the tv remote, they dont moan about your weight or clothes or hair and they cant eat your chocolate.. They dont talk back either. Its a win win..
One older lady I knew met a "nice man" he was a recent widower ,after their first meeting he took her to his home which he apologised for being a tip so she helped him clean and showed him how to work the washing machine. They had a couple of nice dates then he took her to his house again which was just as messy as the first time. He obviously expected her to clean it again but instead she called herself a taxi and told him to hire a cleaner.
This stood out to me: she did the right thing. She didn't let herself become a slave for a lazy man. She made the right choice. I just feel sorry for the next woman to cross his path.
a_muppet: Ha, I just spotted you, Noeleena - sneaking in. ::Sgc7Hl4::
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noeleena: Thank you i do come in allmost every night ,just dont allways have some thing to say ,of cause you know i,m a spy....lol,s.
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