Friend An Alcoholic

Well if you're not willing to walk away then you will have to tolerate it because she's not gonna go get help until she's ready to accept that she has a problem and wants to get help. Your only other option is an intervention which could alienate her. Alcoholics generally don't put the stuff down on their own. It has to be her decision.

The only thing I suggest is that you, or preferably your friend, contact alcoholics anonymous and ask their advice. I haven't really looked but the website may offer helpful advice:
Alcoholics Anonymous

I can say there are different types of alcoholics. There are the binge drinkers who hold it together all through the week then go all out on the weekend and wake up in strange peoples beds or jail cells with no idea what happened ( I had a friend like that).

Then there are the typical falling down drunk like we see/imagine sitting on a park bench with a bottle stashed in a pocket ..

But there are also very capable functioning alcoholics and I knew one of those too. Her problem was caused by the tragic loss of two babies and the awful advice of male doctors who told her 'dont worry you can always have another one' .. The first drink helped her sleep next night it was two then three , before she knew it it was a bottle of vodka per day but she never missed work she always did her job properly , she kept house and shopped and cooked like anyone else. It just when we drunk tea she had vodka.

Being an alcoholic is not a choice and its not as simple as saying lay off the booze very often the underlying cause has to be addresssed and cured first just like people with eating disorders, thats why people who need gastric surgery see a team of psychiatrists before and after surgery.

I would advise before you go any further to talk to the people at Al Anon who support and help the family and friends of alcoholics, they might help you to see what you can and what you shouldnt do..

www.al-anonuk.org.uk/

My friend is still drinking. She's fallen down a few times now and there was blood everywhere. She had really hit her forehead hard. In fact, she's falling down drunk late at night. She had to go to A&E for stitches.

A close relative of hers died a few years ago and I know she's been seeking bereavement counselling. She has been badly affected by her death.

I just want my friend to stop drinking.

I hate it when my friend is drunk. It makes me sick to my stomach.