Bestie's Mum In Danger Of Eviction

Time to bring in the MH team. Not only can they offer practical solutions they can also help ward off the threats of eviction by explaining that this is not wilful dirty behaviour but a MH issue.

This has stood out to me: it IS a mental health issue. Vicky's mum has always been prone to lying in bed all day, due to depression. There must be other mental health issues, too: I shall inform Vicky that getting the mental health team involved COULD reduce the risk of eviction. Because if Vicky's mum can't cope with looking after a two-bed apartment, she can't cope. Plus, she is in her early 70's. This is a double-whammy.

It is clearly not just a case of someone who can't be bothered to clean: it is a case of someone with depression and other mental health problems.

This takes me back to a few years ago, when Vicky was having trouble with her housing situation. If she had ended up on the street, I would've been pressured by her to have her live with me, even though that isn't allowed by the tenancy agreement I signed. I would've had to have left her on the street, whilst having a roof over my own head. And if she had tried staying in my apartment, I would've broken the tenancy agreement and would have lost my own apartment.

BUT I would have had a saving grace: my dad lives nearby and would let me live with him. BUT I like my independence and losing my apartment would be a crushing blow. Plus, Vicky would have lost this apartment, too. I know she'd knock on neighbours doors, watch TV late at night: cause trouble, basically. She wouldn't last 5 minutes here. Of course it is certainly never all Vicky's fault: she has been victimized in many ways.

Anyhow, Vicky would simply not be allowed to have her mum live with her: the staff at her address simply would not allow it. The shoe is on the other foot, if you see my point. Both Vicky and I feel awful. I also feel if I had no home, Vicky would leave me on the streets, too: not because she's nasty but because that is how the world is.

I hope both Vicky and her mom get the help they need.

Vicky turned up at my apartment yesterday morning, suitcase in hand.

No one was happy about this. This included my sister. Thankfully I got Vicky talking to her former foster carer again and this cheered up Vicky no end. So Vicky caught the bus home yesterday and didn't stay the night.

Vicky and I also wandered around town. We popped into a few charity shops. We also had a drink in Costa.

Vicky just needs a friend.

She does have her own place! That's why it made virtually no sense with her turning up at mine. But we spent a few hours together, around town.

No one was happy with Vicky yesterday.

I don't know about troublemaker but she sounds really hard work

She sounds utterly self indulgent.

Are you sure you are getting value out of this friendship?

Thank you for all your responses.

Unfortunately, Vicky's landlord now wants her out: Vicky just got into mess after mess. Her landlord is giving time, though: she can stay until Social Services find her a new place.

I guess Vicky kept breaking the rules: she wouldn't stop the anger. I fear Vicky's life is already down the toilet. She can't hold onto a property very long. The worst thing is, I won't be able to help her if she becomes homeless: if I give her my apartment [NO WAY] and stay at my dad's, she'll end up losing [my] apartment and I'll have to find another apartment. I certainly cannot live with Vicky.

I am starting to feel trapped by it all: I feel like some villian if I don't help Vicky, but a fool if I do.

There are people who try to think everything is in order and nice in their life hoping that the reality will turn out that way then there are people who make a mountain out of a molehill because they either want attention or think that they are a forever victim. Vicky appears to be in the second group.

My bestie has ditched her boyfriend: she told me he texted too often and dating him could be a problem because he mightn't have been allowed to stay in her apartment [due to landlord issues].

I am sad for Vicky: she deserves someone special in her life. I may have been jealous but I don't want her to be alone OR miserable. I think she's made a mistake by ending the relationship. I just hope she meets someone so special, no landlord will stop that love.