Post by wildflower2007 on Nov 15, 2021 16:09:37 GMT -5
Hello,
My boyfriend and I joined a wrestling/grappling class a few times at our gym. We were both new at it. He runs and does some light resistance training. He's 35 and healthy. So the second time in class he was matched up against a young boy who was learned had a few years training in wrestling and grappling and works out with his parents and a coach. So exceptional I'd say, but still....
Long story short, the boy, who was also smaller beat my boyfriend twice, and my boyfriend was trying. I felt embarrassed and a little shocked because I thought he was more dominant. Not to mention he looked ashamed after and won't go back to the class. I understand that he had lack of training in wrestling but honestly he didn't look that strong either and seemed to be outpowered. He wasn't able to use any leverage or get out of any pins or holds.
Has my boyfriend lost his dominance?
Hope this is the right thread for the topic.
Last Edit: Nov 15, 2021 16:10:25 GMT -5 by wildflower2007
Post by TestDummyCO on Nov 15, 2021 19:41:32 GMT -5
Why join a class? To learn. If you're not as good as the others, so what? You're there to learn. If you feel you're above learning anything in life because of your size, fitness level, and/or intellect, you're gonna have bigger problems than losing a wrestling match.
Wrestling or other sports shouldn't be about asserting dominance. You have to learn techniques and know what you're doing. Your BF was a newcomer, and yes, maybe he thought he'd be able to jump right into it and beat anyone if he was larger than them, but that's not always going to be the case.
I don't think it's something to be ashamed of. Losing always can sting a bit, but there's nothing wrong with it... Maybe he could sense your embarrassment, and it was just added to his own, making the situation worse. That would make him not want to continue. Just try to be more supportive and encouraging with him. If he likes it otherwise, then he shouldn't give up. One day he can beat someone, too.
Why join a class? To learn. If you're not as good as the others, so what? You're there to learn. If you feel you're above learning anything in life because of your size, fitness level, and/or intellect, you're gonna have bigger problems than losing a wrestling match.
If you never find your limit you never have a hurdle to cross and you learn slowly. Your boyfriend needs to set aside his bruised ego and analyse what happened, his opponent and their moves. If he really wants to learn he could ask his opponent why he was able to beat him so easily. Sharing knowledge is to improve learning and make new friends.
If you never find your limit you never have a hurdle to cross and you learn slowly. Your boyfriend needs to set aside his bruised ego and analyse what happened, his opponent and their moves. If he really wants to learn he could ask his opponent why he was able to beat him so easily. Sharing knowledge is to improve learning and make new friends.
LOL My interview and training technique all wrapped up in one little sentence.
Why join a class? To learn. If you're not as good as the others, so what? You're there to learn. If you feel you're above learning anything in life because of your size, fitness level, and/or intellect, you're gonna have bigger problems than losing a wrestling match.
Good point. It was probably because it was a kid, so he assumed probably didn't have much training when in fact he had about the most in the class and was the instructor's nephew.
Why join a class? To learn. If you're not as good as the others, so what? You're there to learn. If you feel you're above learning anything in life because of your size, fitness level, and/or intellect, you're gonna have bigger problems than losing a wrestling match.
I think he underestimated his opponent because he was smaller and a kid. He didn't consider the boy had a few years of practice and experience and trains a lot. And as a result of this is pride was tarnished. Thanks