Post by Popcorn&Candy on Jul 28, 2021 8:05:05 GMT -5
Nick is great. But I sent him a parcel a good few weeks ago: it was returned to me today. Plus, when I telephone him, he doesn't pick up the phone. He hasn't phoned himself for a good month. I can't text him, because he doesn't bloody well know how to use a smart phone. He is impossible to contact, unless he telephones himself. WHY can't he use a smart phone? He's got one.
I am very frustrated. It seems one has more interest in the friendship than the other. I can't force him to pick up the phone. Or learn how to use his smart phone.
I think it is pretty obvious things are dwindling but I feel sad about it. I just can't make him answer the phone.
But that's the way the world is, James: if you don't look like you deserve that desk, you're not going to get that desk.
Nick is great. But I sent him a parcel a good few weeks ago: it was returned to me today. Plus, when I telephone him, he doesn't pick up the phone. He hasn't phoned himself for a good month. I can't text him, because he doesn't bloody well know how to use a smart phone. He is impossible to contact, unless he telephones himself. WHY can't he use a smart phone? He's got one.
I am very frustrated. It seems one has more interest in the friendship than the other. I can't force him to pick up the phone. Or learn how to use his smart phone.
I think it is pretty obvious things are dwindling but I feel sad about it. I just can't make him answer the phone.
Trying too hard will just put him off further. Sorry, but it's time to let go, and see if he gets back to you.
Nick is great. But I sent him a parcel a good few weeks ago: it was returned to me today. Plus, when I telephone him, he doesn't pick up the phone. He hasn't phoned himself for a good month. I can't text him, because he doesn't bloody well know how to use a smart phone. He is impossible to contact, unless he telephones himself. WHY can't he use a smart phone? He's got one.
I am very frustrated. It seems one has more interest in the friendship than the other. I can't force him to pick up the phone. Or learn how to use his smart phone.
I think it is pretty obvious things are dwindling but I feel sad about it. I just can't make him answer the phone.
Ignore him for now, if he does not get in touch with you within a week, you should forget him, he does not deserve your friendship.
Post by Popcorn&Candy on Jul 29, 2021 3:11:25 GMT -5
Thank you for all your support and advice.
Whatever Nick is doing, I hope he is happy. If he wants to get in touch, then I will happily answer. But the ball is in his court. If he's not interested in friendship that is his choice and his decision to make. I hope we don't lose our friendship, though: he's been great to me in the past.
He could well have gone on a trip: he is always travelling around. He's an incredibly free spirit. I won't give up on life if he doesn't get in touch, but I would still miss him.
But that's the way the world is, James: if you don't look like you deserve that desk, you're not going to get that desk.
Post by Rebecca Jo on Jul 29, 2021 15:07:35 GMT -5
I would be trying to find out from others whether he's moved or gone on a trip, just for your own information; but it doesn't seem there's much you can do for now about getting in touch with him.
Depending on the person and the strength of the friendship, I like to leave room for resuming later. You never know what someone's going through, and it's a great feeling when there's someone on the other end of troubled times who will support you and pick up the friendship again without a lot of judgment. (Apologies are nice, of course. Hopefully you'll get one sometime for the abrupt change.)
Post by Popcorn&Candy on Jul 30, 2021 6:17:56 GMT -5
Good news: Nick telephoned last night. We had a lovely chat. He may well be visiting me in my hometown in a few weeks time. I am also re-sending the letter today and have written a card, too. I am sure it'll go down a treat. Nick has sent me things, too. I LOVE getting presents and cards through the post.
I appreciate all your comments. Nick is just a man who travels around a lot. But I still get annoyed when he doesn't answer his phone. And it's a pain that he doesn't know how to use a smart phone. But those are my only two criticisms of Nick.
Anyhow, it is good to know Nick is on my side: he's a gem.
But that's the way the world is, James: if you don't look like you deserve that desk, you're not going to get that desk.
Post by Popcorn&Candy on Jul 31, 2021 13:59:50 GMT -5
I re-sent his letter and a newly written "greeting" card. I wrote a fairly short message in it, but it is still wordy. I also put on loads of cool stickers on the envelope and card. It seems childish, but I am creative and young-at-heart!
I am sure Nick'll soon receive his letter. Again, he's a good man.
But that's the way the world is, James: if you don't look like you deserve that desk, you're not going to get that desk.
It does seem curious. But if he did send the parcel back, he would never have telephoned me. Still, I am a bit mystified myself.
Over here if we're not home and a parcel comes it gets taken to a local pickup point , you then have 7-days to retrieve it or it gets returned to sender ...maybe this is what happened with Nicks parcel if he was away he may have missed the pick-up date.
It does seem curious. But if he did send the parcel back, he would never have telephoned me. Still, I am a bit mystified myself.
Over here if we're not home and a parcel comes it gets taken to a local pickup point , you then have 7-days to retrieve it or it gets returned to sender ...maybe this is what happened with Nicks parcel if he was away he may have missed the pick-up date.
Could be. Here, we can notify our local UPS that we'll be away, and they will hold our mail and packages for us... no sending back! ... but if it's a different delivery service that doesn't allow for that, then they'll just leave it in front of the house, and anyone can steal it if we don't ask neighbors to hold it for us lol
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It does seem curious. But if he did send the parcel back, he would never have telephoned me. Still, I am a bit mystified myself.
Over here if we're not home and a parcel comes it gets taken to a local pickup point , you then have 7-days to retrieve it or it gets returned to sender ...maybe this is what happened with Nicks parcel if he was away he may have missed the pick-up date.
Much the same here, except if it is one of the cowboys. They leave it at the front door, coz they know that no-one would ever steal an unguarded parcel.
It does seem curious. But if he did send the parcel back, he would never have telephoned me. Still, I am a bit mystified myself.
Who did you send the parcel by? Surely there would have been a returned reason or the tracking would show a list of actions by the company? If it was returned by him then he would have created a label. A carrier would have their own official label for returns but if he returned he would have had to fill it in? Essentially, was it returned undelivered or returned after delivery.
Post by Popcorn&Candy on Aug 20, 2021 7:11:00 GMT -5
The parcel turned up: after I had to have it redelivered! In the parcel was a pair of gold dreamcatcher earrings, a mug, postcards, a cool Spirit & Destiny magazine, a box of chocolates and a bottle of Angel perfume. Plus, Nick is regularly phoning me. No: he's great.
I am hoping to see him next week. I would've done Saturday, but my sister does not want me to see Nick on that day, as it is our day. So, it'll be in the week I see Nick.
But that's the way the world is, James: if you don't look like you deserve that desk, you're not going to get that desk.
My friendship with Nick is far from dwindling now!
BUT I still wish he'd learn to use his smartphone: that is my one gripe.
I had a fantastic day with him on Friday: it felt like old times. No: Nick and I shall carry on being friends for a long time.
I am pleased that things have turned out well. Don't worry too much about the smartphone. Some people don't like them. I don't even own one and have little desire to. The present day amuses me when I think of my mum saying, only a couple of weeks ago, how she and my dad used to arrange to be at their respective public telephone boxes on a certain day and time each week so that they could chat. How things have changed. With the constant contact, I'm not sure it is always for the better.
My friendship with Nick is far from dwindling now!
BUT I still wish he'd learn to use his smartphone: that is my one gripe.
I had a fantastic day with him on Friday: it felt like old times. No: Nick and I shall carry on being friends for a long time.
I am pleased that things have turned out well. Don't worry too much about the smartphone. Some people don't like them. I don't even own one and have little desire to. The present day amuses me when I think of my mum saying, only a couple of weeks ago, how she and my dad used to arrange to be at their respective public telephone boxes on a certain day and time each week so that they could chat. How things have changed. With the constant contact, I'm not sure it is always for the better.
Definitely. Andrea only works 2 days a week, but is on duty to that phone for 7 days a week.
I am pleased that things have turned out well. Don't worry too much about the smartphone. Some people don't like them. I don't even own one and have little desire to. The present day amuses me when I think of my mum saying, only a couple of weeks ago, how she and my dad used to arrange to be at their respective public telephone boxes on a certain day and time each week so that they could chat. How things have changed. With the constant contact, I'm not sure it is always for the better.
Definitely. Andrea only works 2 days a week, but is on duty to that phone for 7 days a week.
Yes, that reminds me of my stepson. Occasionally we would hear him in the middle of the night chatting on his phone. It would be whoever was on the night shift where he worked asking his advice about some problem or other. It happened regularly. I don't think he gets that now as his role has changed but he lives elsewhere now so I wouldn't know.
My friendship with Nick is far from dwindling now!
BUT I still wish he'd learn to use his smartphone: that is my one gripe.
I had a fantastic day with him on Friday: it felt like old times. No: Nick and I shall carry on being friends for a long time.
The present day amuses me when I think of my mum saying, only a couple of weeks ago, how she and my dad used to arrange to be at their respective public telephone boxes on a certain day and time each week so that they could chat. How things have changed. With the constant contact, I'm not sure it is always for the better.
LOL in the years before mum had a phone I used to ring the phonebox that was on the corner at the bottom of her garden and ask whoever answered to knock on her door...
I still know the number out of my head but mum informed me they took the box away recently....
The present day amuses me when I think of my mum saying, only a couple of weeks ago, how she and my dad used to arrange to be at their respective public telephone boxes on a certain day and time each week so that they could chat. How things have changed. With the constant contact, I'm not sure it is always for the better.
LOL in the years before mum had a phone I used to ring the phonebox that was on the corner at the bottom of her garden and ask whoever answered to knock on her door...
I still know the number out of my head but mum informed me they took the box away recently....
When I was little it was not rare to call people's neighbours, and ask them to fetch who you wanted to speak to. lol
Post by Popcorn&Candy on Aug 29, 2021 5:28:21 GMT -5
Technology in the 21st century is amazing. I LOVE technology.
Anyhow, I remember those old pay phones: they are gone now. But they served their purpose.
I definitely could not live without my smartphone: they are so easy to use and convenient. They make life much easier. And even those with lesser money are having smartphones, which is progress. EVERYONE should have one and be able to use it.
But that's the way the world is, James: if you don't look like you deserve that desk, you're not going to get that desk.
The present day amuses me when I think of my mum saying, only a couple of weeks ago, how she and my dad used to arrange to be at their respective public telephone boxes on a certain day and time each week so that they could chat. How things have changed. With the constant contact, I'm not sure it is always for the better.
LOL in the years before mum had a phone I used to ring the phonebox that was on the corner at the bottom of her garden and ask whoever answered to knock on her door...
I still know the number out of my head but mum informed me they took the box away recently....
Yes, they are phasing phone boxes out quickly now. They are pretty much a thing of the past.