Post by IBelieveInYou on May 28, 2021 19:11:47 GMT -5
Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship? Or just stuck in your situation?
Lately I've been feeling pretty stuck as I've moved in with my boyfriend wayyyy sooner than I would have liked. But due to a series of unfortunate events I needed a stable place to stay. I was at the women shelter (well they actually had me up in a hotel as the women shelter was full) and I had stayed at the hotel for almost 2 months I want to say. During those 2 months, the worker that was assigned to me was incredibly helpful and not only helped me get my birth certificate (which now I'll know for sure what town I was born in, YAY!) but she helped me get accepted onto this program that helps pay your rent. Because the program pays me at the end of the month I'd have to pay for first and last up front plus I'd have to get internet installed and pay for that which is more than I can afford right now. My boyfriend (who I'd had been dating for literally a few weeks) offered for me to move in so I can save some money before getting my own place. I knew that usually when moving in with someone really soon into things it tends to go sour. Well, damn. I thought I could save some money and move here for a few months tops to get my finances more in order.
I regret everything.
I mean all together, he isn't a horrible person. I just, I'm not romantically into him anymore and I feel so bad and guilty because he is helping me out so much. Lately, we don't spend time together though we are always home. Yesterday we were going to watch a movie together but within the first 5 minutes of the movie he got frustrated cause I had asked him not to have his feet up on the table while we have food on the table. Then he picked his teeth, licked his fingers and then put them back in the bowl. He knows that for some reason I really don't like when people do that even if I'm dating them. So anyways he got annoyed with me cause I had politely asked him not to do it again. He walked off being all moody and when I asked him if he wanted to talk about it he said he feels like it would just cause an argument. Literally, we have argued once a few weeks ago because he was getting snappy at me and I wasn't taking it anymore.
To add to that we don't have the taste in shows or movies and he definitely doesn't get my sense of humour. I feel stuck because he is such a great guy and he does do A LOT for me, he usually cooks and I usually clean. For the most part if I don't clean he won't do it. Though I can, and do cook, he has been wanting to do most of the cooking cause it's been his career for years. But as for cleaning the washroom, sweeping the floors or even the cat litter for HIS cat. If I don't do the cat litter he won't do it for about a week and a half. *puke*
I am so lost on what to do and how to tell him that I'm just not into him in a relationship way. He is a sweetheart and I think he means well, I just feel like I can't truly be who I am with him.
What would you do if you were in my situation? How would you approach this situation?
Lately I've been feeling pretty stuck as I've moved in with my boyfriend wayyyy sooner than I would have liked. But due to a series of unfortunate events I needed a stable place to stay. I was at the women shelter (well they actually had me up in a hotel as the women shelter was full) and I had stayed at the hotel for almost 2 months I want to say. During those 2 months, the worker that was assigned to me was incredibly helpful and not only helped me get my birth certificate (which now I'll know for sure what town I was born in, YAY!) but she helped me get accepted onto this program that helps pay your rent. Because the program pays me at the end of the month I'd have to pay for first and last up front plus I'd have to get internet installed and pay for that which is more than I can afford right now. My boyfriend (who I'd had been dating for literally a few weeks) offered for me to move in so I can save some money before getting my own place. I knew that usually when moving in with someone really soon into things it tends to go sour. Well, damn. I thought I could save some money and move here for a few months tops to get my finances more in order.
I regret everything.
I mean all together, he isn't a horrible person. I just, I'm not romantically into him anymore and I feel so bad and guilty because he is helping me out so much. Lately, we don't spend time together though we are always home. Yesterday we were going to watch a movie together but within the first 5 minutes of the movie he got frustrated cause I had asked him not to have his feet up on the table while we have food on the table. Then he picked his teeth, licked his fingers and then put them back in the bowl. He knows that for some reason I really don't like when people do that even if I'm dating them. So anyways he got annoyed with me cause I had politely asked him not to do it again. He walked off being all moody and when I asked him if he wanted to talk about it he said he feels like it would just cause an argument. Literally, we have argued once a few weeks ago because he was getting snappy at me and I wasn't taking it anymore.
To add to that we don't have the taste in shows or movies and he definitely doesn't get my sense of humour. I feel stuck because he is such a great guy and he does do A LOT for me, he usually cooks and I usually clean. For the most part if I don't clean he won't do it. Though I can, and do cook, he has been wanting to do most of the cooking cause it's been his career for years. But as for cleaning the washroom, sweeping the floors or even the cat litter for HIS cat. If I don't do the cat litter he won't do it for about a week and a half. *puke*
I am so lost on what to do and how to tell him that I'm just not into him in a relationship way. He is a sweetheart and I think he means well, I just feel like I can't truly be who I am with him.
What would you do if you were in my situation? How would you approach this situation?